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2020.06.09 19:53 marvelous_abundanceThose that started teaching English abroad at a later stage, was it the right decision?
Hello, I'm wondering if there is anyone here that started teaching English in their mid-thirties or at a later stage? I've been considering going down the TEFL route. Reasons: break-up of a long-term relationship, haven't been happy in the country I've lived in for a good 5-6 years (UK) , friends are all moving away, and I'm tired of the type of work I am doing (even though I like the field - corporate training - I just can't deal with the pressure anymore, am living pay cheque to pay cheque, salaries haven't increased in the last 5 years, and none of this will change in the foreseeable future). I've also always wanted to live in a more exotic country and teaching comes close to what I am passionate about (helping people develop new skills). I have a CELTA from 10 years ago, but never taught so may have to do another certification as I don't remember much (it was always my Plan B). Since I'm classed as a non-native speaker as I don't have a passport from one of the Big 7, I've been eyeing Vietnam (China, Korea, Japan, and Taiwan are not an option because of my passport). I've been to Vietnam only as a tourist, loved it, but understand that living there will be very different and I also understand that with Covid-19 nothing is for certain. Also, from what I heard the dating scene for expat women is going to be terrible in Vietnam and as I am in my mid-thirties, I'm probably 'on the shelf'. Need a break from dating for the next 2 years anyways, lol. I know I'm super lucky I still have a job (for now,) so hopefully I'll have a good amount of money saved up for the move, the certification, and job search.
What was your experience of becoming a TEFL teacher at a later stage in your life? Do you think it was the right decision?
What led you to your decision? What were your reasons?
What did you consider when deciding on the country you wanted to move to? Where did you go and how long did you stay? Did you move around a lot?
2020.04.05 13:57 gulag_girlComprehensive rebuttal to "why are China lying about their coronavirus numbers"
In reference to this thread: https://www.reddit.com/stupidpol/comments/fv8rve/why_isnt_china_even_attempting_to_make_their The American nationalists keep making posts along these lines, that China are making up their numbers. I posted a comprehensive rebuttal in that thread and none of them wished to reply, so let's have it as a post. Post from coronavirus about imported cases into countries like South Korea. It is clear that China is exporting way less cases now than America/UK etc corroborates their numbers. If you won't trust China's figures you might trust those of democratic countries. I understand skepticism around statistics with Chinese characteristics. To get a clearer picture, examine oblique indicators like imported cases statistics from "transparent" countries: South Korea, Singapore, Taiwan. South Korea: March 30th Update from South Korean Ministry of Health and Welfare. • Total imported cases 476, 17 from China, 56 Asia, 262 Europe, 139 America, 2 Africa. There is a chart on table 13 breaking down imports by date (weeks in 2020). WK4: 3, WK5: 4, WK6: 4, WK7: 2, WK9:2, WK11: 1 (last known imported case 2nd week of March - 7 weeks after Chinese lockdown). For some reason this only adds up to 16. For reference, imported cases from WK13 (last week): China 0, Europe 173, Americas 110. To put 17 in perspective, an estimated 120,000 South Korean expats work in China. Singapore: great case dashboard here. • This article has infographics on their imported cases (March 20). China 24 all from Wuhan, 18 between Jan 23rd - Feb 3rd. If you go through the dashboard, the last imported case from China of any nationality seems like case 26 on February 3rd. I don’t know where/when the other 6 are. Other observations: Singapore evacuated 92 nationals on Jan 30th, 175 on February 9th from Wuhan - epic centre shortly after lock down. If you pour over the data 3/263 (~1%) tested positive. If you want to extrapolate that to Wuhan population, then the estimated Wuhan infection rate is 125k (11m) or 57k (6m assuming 5m left before quarantine). Official Chinese number 63k. Also like Korea, almost all their recent imported cases are from Europe or Americas. Taiwan: Taiwanese Center for Disease Control Press releases. Similarly, overwhelming recent import cases from Europe or Americans. I haven’t found any from China. There are also interesting evacuation data points to consider: • Feburary 3rd, 1 week after Hubei lockdown: 247 evacuated from Wuhan, 1 tested positive. • March 10, 6 weeks after Hubei lockdown: Taiwan evacuates 361 from Wuhan. All negative. • March 30th, 9 weeks after Hubei lockdown: Taiwan evacuates 153 from Wuhan via Shanghai. All negative. Same link 214 evacuated from second flight yesterday. No test update yet. The Shanghai bit is interesting, Taiwanese press accuse China put Taiwanese citizens at elevated risk via transit from Wuhan to Shanghai via rail which they considered dangerous. Yet no one from the first flight tested positive. Check tomorrow for 2nd flight. • Analysis out of the 761/975 tested repatriated Taiwanese from Wuhan… only 1 tested positive. In context of the first evacuation flight right after Wuhan lockdown 1/247 (0.4%) tested positive. Extrapolate to Wuhan population 45k cases (11m) vs 20k cases (5m). These indicators IMO demonstrate China's aggressive quarantine of Wuhan worked. Minimal amount of exported cases to countries China has extremely high travel with shortly after lock down implying the spread at that point has not gotten out of control. Other Chinese provinces are analogous to these countries, more “exported” cases from Wuhan given rail connection. If 5m people left Wuhan to other provinces then that accounts for 20k - 50k cases. Total range 77k-175k. China reports 82k. Regardless, no recent Chinese exported cases that I can find indicate the measures worked to crush the spread. Also the fact that these countries import data shows most of their cases are arriving from Europe and Americas comport with Chinese statements that most of their cases are imported as well. They got their shit under control. But arrive at your own conclusions.
2020.02.09 22:22 caspears76What's it like to be a black American in China
I wrote this before, but everything applies to this question because I am African American, so my perspective is primarily from that lense, although there are stereotypes in China that clearly and usually overlap with how Chinese see all black people, as Africans, until they know otherwise. Most of the Chinese you encounter will never know you are not African, so all the African stereotypes apply to you as well until people know you. I’m a black American, but most importantly I do not look like Beyonce, I look far more like a West African [aka dark skinned], so on sight I am considered black in China, and often assumed to be from Africa. Many Mainlanders will not consider people who look like Beyonce as black. Lets get that straight, they will make all sort of assumptions, from Southeast Asian, Arab, etc. SO people who are that “light” can be treated a variety of ways based on the stereotype of who is looking. I lived in Mainland China (I spent 6 months in Chengdu and lived in Shanghai twice, for a combined 1.5 years). I also spent half a year in Taiwan. This answer is not calling out all Chinese everywhere or even in China, it is talking about “on average” assessment of my discrete experience in multiple cities in China. I have done my best to speak in a way as to not judge all Chinese in a certain light. I'm in a hurry so this will be more a stream of consciousness, but I think this will give you an accurate view. First I would like to say, all blacks are not treated the same. Maybe on sight you are black, but if some/many people in China (not all) find out you are from a Western country, especially America, you might be treated better, I will get into that in more detail below. This all comes down to money and status, the only things that mean much to most Mainland Chinese in 2015. I would say all majority Chinese countries I have lived in are money and status obsessed in comparison to Japan or most Western nations, so it is more a issue of "degree and not kind"...in my estimation Taiwan is the least so, Singapore, then Hong Kong, and Mainland China is the worst (especially the Eastern Coastal Cities), this matters, because if Chinese think you have no money or status you will not be treated very well by many people. In general, Chinese think blacks are poor and uneducated compared to them and especially compared to white people, but more sophisticated Chinese might see a black American are slightly higher status. I have had Chinese change their opinion of me in mid-conversation when I was in a group with white ex-pats. At first, it is common people would ignore me or stare at me. Some might ask curious questions, but focus on the white people. Maybe the whites are English teachers or some other low job, and when the Chinese find out I am a manager at a multi-national, they quickly change their attitude toward me LOL. English Teaching while black. Most Mainland Chinese, outside of a handful of people in the major cities are not very educated, still very much like most people of the developing world. They have been brainwashed by the government, have limited to no contact with the international community, and are social status/class obsessed (thanks to Confucius) and skin color obsessed (thanks to their tradition). The only thing that trumps these things in modern China is MONEY. If you are teaching English, and not white, it is better to do so at a university or public school (although pay might be slightly lower). There is some discrimination at these schools, but also it depends on how desperate they are. If you are in rural Sichuan, most schools are open, because it is hard for them to attract better Westerns to begin with. They are not inundated with applications like schools in Beijing or Shanghai. Most Westerns only know Sichuan makes spicy Chinese food, if they have heard of Sichuan at all, or maybe it is the "province next to Tibet" or something like this. The very worst thing you can do, if you are non-white, is try to go to a training school. My friend worked at one briefly in Taiwan (where people are less backward and racist, but this is still an issue), and foreigners are simply there for entertainment/marketing purposes. This is not about education, it is simply about putting bodies in chairs, which equals more money for the owner. The schools know their clients, nouveau riche Chinese, who are basically wealthy "with low class attitudes and tastes". These people do not know a damn thing about English or any Western nation, but what they see in popular media. They simply think any white person MUST speak English properly (regardless of their nationality) and this is good for their children. After all, this is what they saw on television, and everything on CCTV must be accurate and correct - if it is about foreigners. Meanwhile, the children usually learn nothing - the school owner gets rich. Scam. Non-white English teacher, with any real qualifications, who comes to China to do productive work at a training school needs to reevaluate. You can use it as a way to get in the country and look for better work, but don't make it a life style or a perm job. If you want that, I would suggest going to Japan. There is some racism there, but compared to Mainland China it is not a big issue. Japanese are at least educated and civilized. I can't speak personally about Korea, but I have not heard many terrible things regarding race. Southeast Asian nations are also better, in that they tend to be more desperate for teachers and more laid back about race issues. I have never had any interest teaching long term in China, because I already knew the game before I came here, why would I, as a black man, with real degrees and experience want to potentially work with some white guy with no education, who got the job simply because he was white. I would never degrade myself like that in the first place. A lot of "career teachers" (not all - there are good ones, but far far too many) are drunk losers, womanizers/pervs (meaning take advantage of unsophisticated peasant girl students), people who could not find work back home. The cool ones use it as a means to an end or studying Chinese. If the schools taught properly, as in Europe, there would not be a market for all these BS prep schools to begin with. Actually, one can argue that most Chinese do not even need to know English at all, as they will never use it in life after their schooling is complete. Corporate Jobs First, I am an IT project manager. I have a master's degree and two bachelor's degrees from the U.S., I speak intermediate Chinese, studied at Shanghai International Studies University for a semester. I also have over a decade of IT experience, doing anything from programming, to business analyst work, and project management. I would never move back to Mainland China to work. Beside the pollution and expense, comparative low wages... The economy is pretty good there, a lot of large companies have moved relocated there from other locales. It's better for young people who want experience and don't mind not making a lot of money. People who wish to travel in the region and want a home base, etc. However in my industry, tech, you won’t have a lot of time, because you will likely work 9–9–6 [九九六] For me, it's not worth the money, and it would be very hard to get a job at a company there anyway. There are many people who can speak Chinese now, specifically overseas Chinese (American, Canadian, Brits, Aussies, Singapore) who all speak English and Chinese pretty fluently, many can ready and write as well. Unless you are senior management, it is hard to find a position as a foreigner now, and being black is not going to help you. Not to say everyone is racist. They are not, many Chinese are pragmatic. Work culture is not great, many Chinese try to undermine each other, many will be jealous of you as a foreigner, and also you will work much longer hours than in a Western nation, most of the time. It will be hard to get promoted in a Chinese environment. I would suggest NEVER working for a Chinese manager who did not grow up in or spend considerable time a Western nation. The cultural differences will be problematic. They expect too much sacrafice, loyalty, and act too paternalistic. The good jobs, usually go to white people, senior management, etc. The worse jobs to non-white foreigners, usually. Unless you are sent over by your home office company, then you will probably be okay. I'm more talking about being recruited locally. With blacks, many companies do not even know what to think about you, which is a benefit at times, but usually a disadvantage. Chinese are risk averse, and their general attitude about blacks is they are good at sports, but not good workers (due to lack of intelligence and/or wild behavior). Many people might literally be afraid of you, especially women. I worked for two Western multinationals in China, one was European and one was America. I was hired by a group of Chinese at the American one, and I was hired by a Brazilian guy at the European one.I cannot report any real racism at either of these companies**, in the European one I was one of two black people there (the other was a black French woman) and at the American one I was the only black.** One reason I went to Singapore, is because Singaporeans offer a better standard of living for non-white immigrants. I have felt no real racism against blacks or dark people in general when I was there (but from some Mainland Chinese immigrants, not shocking). I'm not saying there is no racism, but people are at least respectful and educated enough to hide it. You might think this is fake, but it makes life more comfortable, and everyone speaks English and is more familiar with the West because of it, so culture shock is less. The worst experience I had in Singapore, was with a Mainland Chinese woman actually... I walked into an interview with a Beijing woman, she was the only one not smiling and being friendly, she kept staring at me as if she is shocked. Then she gets aggressive with me and keeps challenging my basic knowledge (and no one else does this). I pay careful attention to this, because I've seen this attitude before, many many times. I did not get the job, the Indian recruiter told me he thought it was racism, and was shocked because he referred many people there before with no problem, and the Singaporean and French guy who also interviewed me wanted to hire me, but they were IT, and did not control the budget, the Mainland woman vetoed them. I was also blocked for a job, due to race, at a Taiwanese company (in Taipei). I was referred by a white South African, who said all I had to do was show up, interview well, and I would get the job, very simple. The South African guy was in the interview, the Taiwanese boss obviously did not know I was black as he was shocked to see me and kept starring. He asked me questions like "do you like to play basketball" because I'm 6'2" (189cm) and black. He seemed to think this was a big joke and asked me why I didn't apply somewhere else...and "why would you want to be in Taiwan"...he didn't even refer to my resume once. The next day, my South African friend, wrote me a letter of apology for his bosses behavior, which he himself found shocking. He also attributed this to racism. They were an electronics OEM company. Socially Most Chinese will be indifferent to you, find you an object of curiosity, find you repulsive on sight, want to be friends with you because they think they can get something (even more "face" from their children friends), or simply fear you. You will make Chinese friends, who are good people, but reality is you will have to work at it more than a white foreigner. I'm not sure comparing to other "Asians", but Asian American friends (whom I used to hang out with more than White Americans) would complain they felt they were held to a higher standard and not given the social benefits whites got either. Yes that sucks, but at least they do not stand out, better to be an invisible minority if you are going to face discrimination, than a visible one. If you live in Shanghai, most people will ignore you. You might notice most whites are ignored too, but in social situations whites are often fawned over, you won't get this attention, but maybe in a very rural area, but it will be more like "shock"... If you live in an area with a lot of Chinese from other provinces or you live in a rural province, people will stare at you and talk about you a lot in public. It could be so bad (as in Chengdu) you will have almost no privacy in public. people will take pictures of you without asking, people will talk about you, some children might even try to touch you to see if your skin color rubs off, people might approach you to try to speak English or as a dare from their friends. At first it is funny, but after a month or so you will likely hate it. Now you know what it is like to be famous, it sucks (unless you are rich). You will learn to avoid tourist sites in China, because most tourist are going to be Chinese from other provinces, and they will take pictures of you, make fun of you, and generally be very annoying and rude without regard for you (like you are a zoo animal...trust me, that is not an exaggeration)...most have never seen a black person before, and many will forget you are a human being (if they were ever sure you were human) and become obnoxious. Every place I have been from the Bund (Waitan) in Shanghai, to Leshan (Giant Buddha in Sichuan) people act like this. After this experience, I learned to feel sorry for famous people (although most ask for the fame). This won't happen in Taiwan or Hong Kong unless you are around a big group of Mainland tourist, which you will quickly learn to identify (due to their Mandarin accent, and sometime the dress of the older ones). As far as dating... I've dated several Chinese women, mostly from Taiwan (even while in Mainland China), my current wife is from Hong Kong. She's great, but she has lived in America for a decade, so...a bit different. I never seriously dated anyone from Mainland China, Chinese tend to be racist,or at least prejudice. I got to the point, if the woman tells me she is from China, and she did not grow up abroad I ignored her or only treated her as a friend. Cultural differences are too extreme, and I do not want to deal with her attitudes or worse yet her friends and family. Not worth it. I like less drama. Many girls in Mainland China are very socially conservative and do not date, they court, meaning they want to date to prepare for marriage. They might even interview you to see how much money you make, how much money your parents have, if you own property somewhere, etc. Do not take this offensively, they do this to Chinese men too, and might be more strict in their requirements of Chinese men. Many rural girls are also virgins. In bigger cities, many girls do "date" but dating culture is quite different from the West, slower. My advice, if the girl speaks very good English, but never lived in the U.S., and can even use slang, and seems to be perfectly comfortable with you, it is likely she has dated a lot of foreigners before, i would "drop her like a bad habit". We used to call these girls "psycho xiaojie" they usually have a lot of issues. Usually…you have to judge it for yourself. Many girls who will date a foreigner and sleep with a foreigner, especially a black one might never introduce you to their friends, because they are ashamed, they might be just using you to have an 'exotic experience'. Maybe you care about this, maybe you don't. Introduction to parents is always hard, even if the guy is Chinese, and usually does not happen for a long time, if you are black, it may never happen, and be prepared that the parents won't accept you at all, will not see reason, will behave irrationally, and guilt trip your significant other into breaking up with you. This is common in China, even if you are not black. Once when one of my exs (a Taiwanese girl) told her parents she wanted to come visit me, after she told them about me, etc. They had a fit. They said I'm black and they don't want half black grandchildren. They said black people were bad, because they saw so many bad things on TV, they were completely different from Chinese. Her life would be bad, etc. These are Taiwanese from a rural area near Taizhong, with no university education, one of whom grew up on a farm, talking down to me? Nice, but common. Many Chinese (Not all or most) are racist/social climbers, and this tends to increase with the age of the person, and for many they think it is commonsense. Many Chinese will not want their daughter to date or marry a white man either, but black will be even worse. There are also other reasons not to marry a foreigner...don't get me wrong (language issues between the foreigners and inlaws, the idea the girl might emigrate, which I've seen, but primarily that is not usually the issue). Anyway, after criticizing her, her mother came in her room later and once again she should stop talking to me; it was bad. She refused, her parents were upset with her. She thought they will get over it in time. I told her not to hold her breath. I did her a favor, I broke up with her. Oh but then her mother said "why didn't you marry that Englishman? I don't understand you..." :-O This Englishman was an "English teacher". :-O I am a project manager that has run multinational projects. That tells you the extent of their ignorance/racism. I'm not very sensitive about race, it is just I've lived around Chinese people long enough to expect certain behavior and attitudes from a certain % of them...the older the people are the worse they are. As I said, young people are much better...especially people under 35 or so. the problem is they have to deal with their parents. It is a group oriented society, and children are expected to obey their parents (even in adulthood) and live out their parents dreams. The first Chinese girl I ever dated, was born in Shanghai, but grew up mostly in the U.S., every time I went to her house her father would talk to me, her mother would not say a word, just stare at me. She later told me (after we had broke up and she moved to another state) her mother was racist, and her father and her tried to talk to her, but she was convinced black people were lowly and she didn't want her daughter dating one. She said if we had kids they would be ugly and black. This woman had lived in America for a decade. I have more stories like this. Like when you go to night clubs or bars with "white friends", guys who might not even be able to get girlfriends in their home country because they are socially awkward or physically unattractive. Many Chinese women will openly throw themselves at them (and the women who are higher class and more educated are probably far worse than the poorer more rural girls who are likely afraid of all foreigners). They think all whites look like movie stars. In bigger cities like Shanghai, people are more sophisticated they might target white men with money, English teachers are not attractive anymore, outside more rural areas. You will see this again and again though. The funny thing is the women who are easiest to date are probably white women. If you are a native English speaker, as a Western black it will be easy to date many white Anglophone women, because they are generally ignored. Every white guy has "yellow fever" and is chasing local women, and many local girls are "easy". There are many bitter angry white women with body image problems. They are not used to having to compete against non-white women, and they are usually naturally bigger, so they feel fat or less worthy compared to the local Asian women. There was a bar in Shanghai, in the French Concession where it was almost nothing but black Africans and white expat women, for this reason. I'm pretty sure it was called "The Beaver". Forget dating for a minute, when I first came to China, the very first day I was Shanghai, I was lost, and tried to ask for directions in Mandarin (I had a map with me), and a woman (about 30 years old) looked at me and screamed and ran away saying "HEI REN!!!". Seriously. That was my introduction to Shanghai. After this I stopped asking women for direction, in fact I only asked old men, they were nice, but often didn't speak Mandarin well. People often had two attitudes toward me, stare at me in curiosity or move away from me in fear. It has gotten better over the last 10 years, but it still happens Once I was out with a Japanese girl in Shanghai, some Chinese guy called her a whore and said how could she be with a "black". I didn't fully understand them, but the Japanese girl did and got very upset (her Chinese was quite good). We were just walking down the street. in Taiwan, I was walking with an ex, and a group of guys riding on scouters yelled at us, saying the girl was only with me for me "big penis" and drove away quickly. they called her a "Western food eater" which is an insult in Taiwan for women who date Westerns. Then again some people say all kinds of ignorant rude racist things when they think you can't understand them, just like Taiwanese talk about me on the MRT out-loud in public when I'm by myself (they won't do this when I'm with Taiwanese people), sometimes they try to be sneaky and instead of saying "hei ren" they just say "ta" is so big, so dark, where is he from?...etc Usually nothing really bad I can understand. Generally they are not saying anything with a hateful tone, it is almost with childish amusement or curiosity. In China it is often negative, I've been on the Beijing MRT. I've been called "monkey" (Houzi), "dirty" (zang de), "stinky" (chou). I have had old people hold their nose if I sit next to them and say "hen chou"...too black "tai hei"...it goes on and on...it was not my imagination, it happened often. Strangely, in Shanghai it was not that bad or maybe less people were speaking Mandarin, I don't know. A few years ago, I went to Beijing to visit a friend, a white Canadian guy who lives in Sanlitun, near where all the nightclubs are. He told me just a couple of week before I came there the police had attacked a group of black people and just started beating them. He said this happened before. They think the blacks are illegal immigrants from Africa. This was the time when the police had beat up the ambassador's son from some Caribbean nation, because he was black, and accused him of being a drug dealer (he was not dealing drugs). I have never had run ins with the cops in China, thankfully. They stare sometimes, but that's all. Anyway the Beijing government did punish the police, but why were the police going around randomly beating up black people on the street in an area where most foreigners were white? There are no illegal white foreigners in China? I know some, they are everywhere, especially Eastern Europeans. But maybe it is more imagination, maybe no white people ever break the law in Beijing. I would say compared to China, Taiwanese are much more civilized, and Singapore people are even better, but still...things happen. There is racism in every nation on earth, and the targets of it vary by culture. It is an issue of degree, not kind. In Western Europe it is mostly directed at Muslims (especially Turks, Arabs, Pakistanis) but also Gypsies. I think one thing is that in Europe it is seen as low class to say racist things in public and outwardly show you have racist attitudes to groups of people. Similar in America now. In China it is seen as no problem. They don't have a culture that teaches them this is really wrong. Most of my Chinese friends think that racism is when you do something physically bad to someone due to their race. Saying nasty things, not hiring them, not associating with them, being publicly rude to them... is okay, it is up to the individual (at least in Mainland China)... as I said Taiwan is better. They try to hide it, usually. So I'm not over-sensitive, I just have commonsense. In Europe I worked with international teams, and I was good at it, because I don't take anything at face value. You can learn a lot from people by how they behave. People give hints and clues, without saying anything. My father used to tell me "a man tells you what he wants and expects all day, if you pay attention to him". I know some Chinese will say this is not true, I am too sensitive, there is no racism in China. I have heard it all. For Chinese women, here is a test if you are not sure of your parents reaction to dating a black man. Tell your Chinese friends you were dating a black guy and see what their response is? BUT first, tell them you were dating a white guy from Europe...then say "oh but I really liked this black guy more, he was very nice" then see what their faces look like. haha This is part of what it is to live in some parts of Asia, you accept it or you leave. White skin is preferred, there is a reason all this whitening cream is everywhere (something hard to find in Western nations). There is a reason they make everyone lighter than they are in magazines and TV. There is a reason many people have such strong fetishes for white people. I learned in 1999, that the guide books that talk about stereotypes Chinese have of Americans, was really referring to "white people" it had nothing to do with me. How I am often treated is definitely not like a random white person is treated. In reality, people can dislike you for any reason or like you for any reason, but some reasons are more common than others, and have a stronger affect on how people act toward you. It pays to know your strengths and weaknesses in any situation so you can compensate, if possible. I learned this years ago. I write all this in detail so you fully understand...I have a good friend, very smart guy who works for Apple in Shanghai. He is wealthy and highly educated, and he is quite bitter about being slighted or treated as less than white people who have far less accomplishments. It gets to him quite a bit. He mostly does not associate with Mainland Chinese due to this, only Taiwanese and Western people. I became like this too, so (and for many other reasons) decided to come home. I do not regret my decision, life is much better. That being said, if I could get a good paying job in Taiwan I would go there, but never again live in Mainland China. My suggestion is, if you are in Beijing, Shanghai, or Guangzhou associate yourself with Hong Kongers, Singaporeans, and Taiwanese, you will likely have more fun. Some of you might say "well China is still largely poor and that is how people in poor nations act". That is B.S. I've been to Cambodia, Egypt, Vietnam, Ethiopia, Indonesia...and people do not act this way. Only in Mainland China. Addendum: My wife is Chinese, my daughter is half Chinese, my in-laws are all Chinese…I don’t hate Chinese people. That is nonsense. Everything I said is true based on my experience, does Quora want that or do they want people to lie and make up stories. There is racism in the real world, there is ignorance in the real world…and it doesn’t just happen in the U.S.
2020.02.02 12:30 f00dguyMy story of how and why I left Guangzhou, China.
Hey guys. I've been actively monitoring this sub over a week ago since it rocked my world and obviously everyone else in China. I'm writing this to kind of explain my thought process as events slowly unfolded. I know there are many other expats in China who aren't sure of what to do. Maybe this post will help some of you. I'm an Asian-American who has been living in Guangzhou for the past four months. Nothing was too eventful, other than me meeting this wonderful girl who I've been casually dating. We had some major differences in relationship values, but we continued to see each other as we both enjoyed each others' company. After a few months of living in Guangzhou, I always had this thought in the back of my head that I would leave soon. I've experienced all of what I wanted out of the city, and the only thing keeping me here was the girl. Throughout this relationship, another thing that kept me staying was Chinese New Year. I had never been abroad during CNY, and I figured there would be no better place to experience this holiday other than in China itself. Here's a timeline of events that showed how our lives turned upside down. January 19th. She invited me to dinner with several of her close friends. We had a nice family-style meal at a restaurant and talked about the upcoming holidays. We were planning to go on a road trip with the 5 of us. It sounded like fun. Afterwards, we went to an arcade and played some games, so much fun was had. January 20th. This sub was created. At this point, I don't think the news of the virus was big yet. I joined this sub either on this day or the following day. I remember there being around three-five thousand members when I joined. January 21st. At this point, not many people were wearing masks outside. I went to dinner with the girl this night. Earlier, she had invited me to her home for dinner on the 24th, which was an important day to celebrate for Chinese people. I knew it was a big deal to invite me to her home to eat with her parents. However, it turned out that her mom didn't want me over unless we had a "serious relationship." Fair point from the mom. So I was uninvited. The new plan was that she'd have dinner at home on the 24th, and then we'd explore the flower market together. Everyone was hyping up this flower market which I had never experienced before, so I was really excited about it. News of the virus was beginning to ramp up. She politely reminded me to stop rubbing my eyes, a bad habit of mine, now due to the virus. I promised her I would try my best. We kissed each other on the cheeks and said goodbye. Little did I know, this could possibly be the last time we ever saw each other. :( January 23rd. News broke in Guangzhou that the flower market was being canceled. Many public areas were being closed down. Everyone began isolating themselves at home. I wanted to spend time with the girl, but she locked herself home. I guess many others were doing the same. I began thinking about an exit strategy. But I knew doing anything at this point would be considered panicked and reckless. We still didn't have a lot of info on the virus at this point. Masks are and have been sold out in the streets. I heard people were charging up to 60 RMB for one mask, when they normally cost 1-2 RMB each. January 24-26. More isolation. I only went out to buy food and groceries. The grocery stores were well-stocked. I survived on ramen noodles, peanuts, and hot pot every day. I was a little afraid to order food at a restaurant, you never know where the food preparers have been or who they've been in contact with. The girl was beginning to think she caught the virus. I assured her she was fine. She had a history of being overly paranoid, a trait she definitely inherited from her mom. My mental state was beginning to decline. Social isolation is real folks. It's not the virus I feared the most, since I am a relatively healthy 30-something male. But not having any human contact was beginning to take its toll. As to whether to stay in China or leave, there were basically two camps on this sub. Camp A) GTFO Now!!! B) Stay, dont panic, and don't spread the virus MFer. Surprise surprise. Ultimately, everyone knew this thing was getting worse by the day. I was planning to leave, I just didn't know when and where. January 27. She went and saw a doctor. My dad's friend invited me to his home for dinner. I was desperate for any human interaction, so I went. I had mostly been confined at home the past few days, I had no mask, I had no idea what was going on in the outside world other than there was significantly less people walking around. I went inside the subway without a mask. The worker told me I wasn't allowed inside without a mask. So I had to take a taxi to my dad's friend's house. That night, he gave me one mask. I took it. January 28. I went to another one of my dad's friend's house for dinner. It was a lovely homemade meal. We had fish, a lamb stew, roast pork, and some veggies. This meal was gold compared to what I'd been eating at home. It kind of shocked me, but their family was still not using "community chopsticks." I guess they weren't too concerned about proper hygiene practice. I secured two more masks today thanks to my dad's friend. When I got home on this night, I messaged the girl. She had a complete mental breakdown. She told me she didn't want to see or talk to anyone. I spend the next few days trying to message her but also trying to give her some space she wanted. All I got out of her was "I'm fine, don't worry, but I just don't want to talk to anyone now." I was lost as to what to do. The news of the virus was getting worse and worse also. February 1. By this time, the US had placed the highest travel warning against going to China. And they were urging its citizens to return to the US. I had waited about a week already at this point, hopelessly hoping the situation would get better. I asked here for advice, and I bought a ticket to leave. There were no more direct flights from China to US or so I heard. So I booked a flight through EVA Air that would leave tomorrow, and had a 23-hour layover in Taipei, which I didn't mind because I love Taipei. February 2 (Today). My flight was scheduled to depart at 11:30 AM. I arrive at Baiyun Airport around 9, in case there were extra procedures I had to go through. First, the subway to get to the airport was eerily empty. Literally, I took this subway to Taipei in November last year, and it was jam packed. Today, each row of seats had on average 2 people (normally they seat 6). The airport was quite empty as well. I really don't know if this is normal for CNY, but I guess it's a mixture of both CNY and the virus. In terms of procedure, there was only one additional paper you had to fill out before leaving China. It was a form that basically asked if you've been in Wuhan. Nothing else really stood out, until I reached the boarding gate. There, one of the workers pointed out that I had a 23-hour layover and that I wouldn't be allowed into Taiwan! Seriously? He said yeah, everyone who enters Taiwan from Guangzhou or Shenzhen must stay at least 14 days in Taiwan. He urged me to talk to the Transfer department when I land at Taiwan to schedule an earlier flight out of the country. I panicked and canceled my Airbnb. When I land in Taiwan, I talk to the people at the Transfer Desk. I told them what the guy said to be before I boarded the plane. She talked to some people and basically said what that guy told me was untrue. So I was allowed to enter Taiwan. Entry into Taiwan wasn't much different from the usual other than them requiring you to fill out some additional paperwork asking if you've been to Wuhan basically. There was an extra line a bunch of people on my plane had to wait in for, but I was able to skip that line because I had a connecting flight. I think they were basically asking the passengers if they've been to Wuhan or came into contact with anyone from Wuhan. I'm now chilling inside my Airbnb. I ordered some fried chicken on uber eats and wrote this thing. Just waiting for my flight back to SFO tomorrow morning now. It's been a tiring day. I barely slept last night, I think it was the anxiety or sadness of the whole situation. I hate to have to leave China in this way. It feels so wrong. Everyone's lives here changed seemingly overnight. It hit hard and fast. A little over a week ago, I was making plans with this girl to enjoy the holiday break. It sounded like it was going to be a fun and memorable time. It certainly will be a memorable moment in my life, but it was anything but fun. I don't know if anyone outside or even inside China can relate, because I certainly have never come close to being in any situation like this. I often wonder if I am just panicking, and that this situation is not as bad as it seems. My gut says it's bad. And so I decided I had to leave. I don't know what will happen to that girl. I don't know if I will ever see her again. I just pray that she's ok. We had our ups and our downs. The downs were really bad. But she had the best vibe any guy can ask for. She brought out a side to me that felt so natural when I was around her. Lastly. I just want to pray and ask you to pray for the people of China. No one asked for this crisis, but now everyone in China is dealing with it, as well as many others around the world. It came at the absolute worst timing as well, during CNY, when people are supposed to go back to their families to celebrate. Now, every is just stuck at home watching TV, bored out of their minds. What's happening in China is truly horrible. Nobody deserves this.
2020.01.22 06:53 RandomUserKnowledgeUpdated thread about the Wuhan Virus / Coronavirus / nCoV2019
Latest update: 1:08 pm (Shanghai Time) 2020-02-23 Shanghai Hotline 021-12345 Latest News (ordered from newest to oldest):
2020-02-23 Update: No major updates, the key new reported from Shine.cn (Government funded newspaper) says "No new coronavirus cases reported in city" Source
2020-02-19 Tips: By law, you should be paid in full February Threat
2020-02-18 Schools in SH: Primary and secondary schools will begin online teaching on March 2 and students need not physically attend schools. A new date for students to return to school will be announced later. Source
2020-02-14 Useful Information: Q&A on Exit-Entry for Foreigners during Epidemic Source
2020-02-14 Recommendation: Be sure to check your local compound rules and regulations, some places require for every legal occupant to register by X or Y date. If you have any problem call the Shanghai Hotline 021-12345
2020-02-10 Data: The Chinese National Health Commission has changed its definition of the coronavirus "confirmed case" in their latest guidelines dated Feb 7th, patients tested positive for the virus but have no symptoms will no longer be regarded as confirmed. This inevitably will lower the numbers. Source
2020-02-08 Health Shanghai: Shanghai now requires all residents to wear facial masks and cooperate with body temperature checkups in public places to combat the novel coronavirus according to a notice issued on Saturday Source
Travel outside SH: Updated list of countries have imposed China travel restrictions over the coronavirus Source
Travel outside SH: Hong Kong the city will quarantine anyone arriving from mainland China, including Hong Kong residents and visitors entering through the international airport, from Feb. 8 at midnight.
Work SH: Shanghai schools ordered to remain closed at least the end of February Source
Travel outside SH:@MOFA_Taiwan updated its travel advisory in light of the coronavirus epidemic. Starting February 7, any foreign nationals who have been to China over the last 14 days would be banned from entering the country. Any foreign national who has not been to China's epidemic epicenter over the last 14 days but has special needs to visit Taiwan needs to submit the following documents for visa application
Travel outside SH: Flights between Indonesia and China to be suspended from this Wednesday and Chinese and all foreign passport holders who've been in China over the past two weeks also can't enter.
Travel SH: Find Out if You've Traveled With a Coronavirus Patient (VPN Off)
Travel outside SH: Philippines joins Australia, US, Singapore in putting in place similar measures to implement a temporary travel ban on all travelers coming from Mainland China and its special administrative regions Hong Kong and Macau (please check with your airline) Source
Travel SH: Compulsory registration introduced for all arrivals in Shanghai ( via road, rail or air, including residents returning from out of town) Source
Help SH: The Shanghai Foreign Affairs Office and 12345, the government affairs hotline, will provide consultation for expats on coronavirus-related issues from Sunday. The line will be open from 8 am to 8 pm.
Travel SH: Australia will deny entry to all travelers from mainland China unless they’re Australian citizens, amid growing fear surrounding the deadly coronavirus, Prime Minister Scott Morrison has announced.
Travel SH: the USA announced a temporary ban on foreign national travel for those who have been in China within the last 14 days. The ban will be in effect beginning at 5 p.m. ET Sunday
News: The World Health Organization-emergency-committee-regarding-the-outbreak-of-novel-coronavirus-(2019-ncov)) has declared it of a global public health emergency
REPORTED CASES as 2020-02-23 1:12 pm CONFIRMED Mainland China: 76,918 Worldwide: 78,847 Source Discharged from the hospital: 22,634 Reported deads: 2,459 Shanghai:
SH Cases: 335
Reported deads: 3
Cases overview: 137 local patients are stable, four are in serious condition and 14 are critical. A total of 177 patients have recovered and been discharged from the hospital. (Not updated)
For cases, I recommend to check the information posted in the Wechat mini-program or Shine.cn (They have infographics with more details about zones in Shanghai. EDIT: While adding the dates to some previous post it seems I deleted part of the old post. I will try to add things back slowly. Sory everyone.
2019.11.12 16:42 Atlas756Relocate from Germany to East Asia (Thailand, Malaysia, China, Taiwan, Singapore, Japan or South Korea)
Hi to everyone reading this, since quite some time I am fascinated by the big metropolitan areas in East Asia. After visiting Bangkok just a few days ago I was thinking how it would be to live in East Asia for a few years. Countries being in my mind are Thailand, China, Singapore, Malaysia, Taiwan, Japan and South Korea. I am mainly interested in the more advanced cities (e.g. Tokyo, Seoul, Hong Kong, Shanghai, Bangkok, Singapore etc.) I am 29 years old, male and living in Germany. I have a masters degree in business and economics and I am currently working in the procurement field of a big corporation (they do not have any subsidiaries in Asia though). So if I would like to move to a different country in the future I would like to work in a field similar to my current profession. I am fairly new in procurement (did work in a somewhat different field before) but plan to stay in this line of work at least for the foreseeable future. I probably need to work another 1-2 years in my current job to have 2-3 years of experience in total in procurement before thinking about switching the job. So currently this is just an idea and no fixed short term plan. The easier way for a job in East Asia is probably working for a company around here in Germany that has also subsidiaries in East Asia and is willing to offer these kind of jobs to foreigners. This way you probably can take advantage of the benefits of the German company as well as getting support in relocating. Maybe also higher payment (especially in countries like Thailand where the average salary is lower than in Germany). The other option is to look for a job directly in the preferred country. Currently this is just an idea with several countries being a possibility. At this point I am looking for opinions from other usesr here on reddit that have experience in that area. Following a few topics I am interested in:
What country/city can you recommend in regards to the city itself, costs of living, working conditions etc? Working conditions in Germany are pretty good (30 days paid vacation, max. 40h/week official working time, high protection as employee by the government against being laid off etc.).
Open-mindedness regarding foreigners is also an important topic. Countries like Japan or South Korea have somewhat the reputation about not being too open to foreigners regarding friendship or also dating (If you are single abroad the dating possibilities are important as well). English language skills of the locals also play a role in this regard. Making friends or finding a girlfriend is not really possible if there is not a language both parties speak in a sufficient matter. Obviously you can learn the local language but this will take some time.
How did you find a job abroad? Did you look for a job directly abroad or did your company at home offer you the possibility to relocate within the company? What way do you prefer and what are the advantages/disadvantages of each respective way?
Do you have any general advice regarding working as an expat (besides visiting the country before) and for making up your mind?
Anything else that you think is relevant in this case please feel free to address
2019.11.01 03:29 CaseyAPayneNaNoWriMo Day 1 - Introduction
Start time: October 1st, 7:56 am End time: 10:00 am Words: 1969 Looks like I'm going to end up spending a few days on the "Introduction..." lol Added photos to see what that looked like on Reddit. I'll probably just link to photos in the future. ---
How I’m writing this book
A few days before November 1st a friend said he might participate in NaNoWriMo, a yearly personal competition to write 50,000 words of a novel over the month of November. I decided that I’d join him on this quest. My recent interactions on Reddit inspired me to share what I write each day in a newly formed community. This is going to impact my style of writing and how the book evolves. I plan on producing a self-contained story each day that may or may not build off of what I wrote in the previous day. At the end of November, I'd like to have a collection of roughly 30 stories which I’ll be able to use as the foundation of a book about myself and my journey to skillful journeying. This is the first time I’ve ever made a serious attempt at writing a book. It’s a book I’ve had in mind for a long time. I thought a good place to begin would be a simple explanation about who the book is for and why I’m writing it. Let’s see… let’s start with who it’s for. That way you won’t have to invest any more time than you need to.
Who this book is for
People interested in personal development and self-improvement
People who have bipolar disorder
People interested in stories related to mental health and bipolar disorder
People interested in martial arts
People who are biracial or are interested in matters of race in the United States
People who are interested in the early days of YouTube and being a YouTuber
People interested in the spiritual quest of enlightenment and some of the schools of thought (or “not-thought”) surrounding them like Taoism, Buddhism, and Hinduism
That’s a lot of different people! More may be included over the course of the month, but let’s break each one down. My mom I’m not sure if I can call my mom my biggest fan, but she’s definitely been the longest and most consistent! My “career” (I haven’t gotten any checks… yet!) as a writer officially began when I moved to Taiwan back in 2002. Before leaving for Taiwan I started participating in an internet discussion forum for expats in Taiwan called Forumosa. Initially, that was comprised of simple questions about moving and over time evolved into long-form essays about heavy-hitting topics like “Are Initialism Words”. That got the writer’s ball rolling. (Side note: The “Writer’s Ball” sounds like a pretty sad dance party… lol) When I physically landed in Taiwan I wanted to keep friends and family up-to-date about the adventures and misadventures I was having so I started sending group emails. At some point, I felt like I was spamming my friends. I had heard about this thing called “blogging” so I thought I would set up and blog. Once I did that I sent a final email to my friends telling them that if they ever wanted to know what was going on with me they could check out my blog. Done this way I could write as much as I wanted to about whatever I wanted without worrying about whether I was annoying my friends. We’ve finally circled back to my mom… lol When you write things meant to be consumed by other humans it’s nice to know that there’s at least one other human out there who will read it. Ever since my first post on Tuesday, August 24th, 2004I knew I’d have at least one set of eyes on the content I pushed out to the World Wide Web. My mom. :D Actually… I quickly learned that there would most likely be at least two pairs of eyes on each post as I also got my first comment that same day!
At 3:55 PM, Anonymous said... You suck. I bet you take crusty wizard wands of the butt.
Lol Gotta love the internet! People interested in personal development and self-improvement “Self Help”... If I wrote a book on personal development or self-improvement that’s the section that it would end up in… YUCK! It’s funny that I’ve come to loathe the category for one of my favorite topics. Well… let’s get into it! There was a long pause here as a few things ran through my head… When did I start taking personal development seriously? What was the first self-help book I bought? Then I rummaged through my pile of journals. I have a few answers. I’m sure I got my hands on books in the self-help category before this but the first book that comes to mind is “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”. I probably picked this up in 2002. I honestly can’t remember any of the principles from the book, but the one thing I do remember was finding out the author was Mormon. That’s probably what made me leery of self-help books! The idea of someone being like “Hey, I want to help you (secretly convert to my principles and religion),” really bugged me. I’m sure there are many universally useful principles for making life better but it bugged me that he wasn’t upfront about his faith from the start of the book… I was clearly seriously interested in personal development then, but I don’t know if I’d count that as the start. I also ended up in the mental hospital shortly after that… (maybe we’ll cover that story later!) The next milestone comes from my pile of journals. I have this beat-up blue Doraemon (he’s this weird blue Japanese cartoon character) journal from 2005. It’s the oldest journal I have and, best I can tell, the start of me maintaining a handwritten personal journal for myself. Flipping through it just now I found the passage (with no date):
LOLOLOLOL! https://preview.redd.it/yr770rj8kzv31.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4cef3e3992438baf9e280f247781d49ed2cf4889 This would be another milestone in terms of personal development and my written journaling got more and more serious from that point up until now, but I wouldn’t call it the personal development start date. There are two official beginnings to my quest toward personal development and they both happened in 2008. On January 19th, 2008, I had this flash of inspiration surrounding an idea for a movement and philosophy for life. I called it… “Pwning Life”. I’m sure we’ll revisit this topic again but the very next day I made a video titled “Pwning Life” and uploaded it to YouTube to mark the occasion. The text your reading now is actually a part of the evolution of “Pwning Life”. Pwning Life was a cool title for a personal development system and philosophy in my 20s but… I eventually grew out of it and into what I now call “Flow to Your Dream”. The second major event was meeting a fellow named John G. John had a whole system he had created where an individual would write up a “Personal Development Plan”. The first version of this plan is dated October 24th, 2008. I’ve updated that document every year since then and it has evolved into a personalized system of my own. People who have bipolar disorder I definitely want sections of this book to speak directly to people who are suffering from bipolar disorder. I would like it to be a book that would give people hope during their darkest times. Whether you have read the book and it serves as a beacon of light to guide you out of a depressive state, a friend recounts a story from the book while you're in the hospital, or you stumble across it in the midst of mania or depression. While the expressions of bipolar are as varied, and unexpected, as Milwaukee snowflakes in May, like snowflakes there are some universal principles and properties they all share. I’m bipolar 1 so my struggles have normally been around bouts of mania, but I’ve also experienced depression. I also appear to be unique among a population of individuals that are already unique in that I’ve been admitted to the mental hospital more than 10 times over the course of my life. There is no doubt that I could write 50,000 pages just on the different experiences and stories connected to each episode, visit to the hospital, and the period of recovery, but I’ll try my best to include a curated collection of the “greatest hits”... lol If you’re reading this now and happen to be in the middle of a LOW low or a HIGH high I want to tell you that it’s all a part of the process of personally developing your own system for self-care and management. Don’t be ashamed of what you’ve done or will do. Stay strong. People love you. I love you. (Woah… I just made myself cry… I don’t cry very often…) Seriously though. I probably have a pretty good idea what you’re going through as I’ve gone through it 10+ times. Here’s a brief list…
Running through streets naked (triple check)
Assaulting police officers
Embarrassing yourself online… Jesus… that’s my whole life! Lol
Getting into a fight with a Buddhist priest in another country
Being hospitalized in another country (Twice!)
Telling a family member you’re going to burn their house down
Threatening suicide online
Becoming the Monkey King
Not showering or brushing teeth for months on end
Manic trips to Puerto Rico
Government tracking you
Aliens talking to you
Battling demons (like… real ones)
Battling the Illuminati
Getting messages from beings of pure light
The list goes on and on… Shit gets dark… really dark… THEN SUPER BRIGHT… then dark… then… THE BRIGHTEST OF THE BRIGHTEST BRIGHT EVEREST TIMES ONE HUNDRED AND EVERYTHING IS BETTER AND GREAT AND WONDERFUL AND… dark… so dark… fuck everything… fuck this shit… bye.
A substantial source of the disease burden in bipolar disorder is suicide-related. Researchers estimate that between 25% and 60% of individuals with bipolar disorder will attempt suicide at least once in their lives and between 4% and 19% will complete suicide. (Source)
If you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to, find someone, find me. I’ll drop two resources if you’re in the US:
Crisis Text Line: in the US Text HOME to 741741, United Kingdom, Text HOME to 85258, Canada, Text HOME to 686868
I’m one of the lucky ones. I’ve had really supportive family and friends. No kind of abuse growing up. Always a stable place to recover. I have no idea what you’re going through now and what you’ve been through. I can’t even promise that things will get better if you work hard. What I can say is that there is a 100% chance that that spark of light you’ve felt is real. It’s a seed of… SOMETHING… something important. Something that will have a positive impact on yourself and the world. Fight to get that seed in the right soil, get it the water and sunlight it needs. Embrace that fight. If you keep it up you’ll get to see it sprout and that sprout will give you hope. Shit happens. A flash flood might wipe everything away. You might get hit with drought but I assure you that, even if you can’t see it or you think it died, it didn’t. It’s still there…
2019.10.20 01:35 ioneedausernameI'm Asian, MY BIGGEST FETISH I love see "our" women being "taken" by the 'white man'
WARNING: VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY and GRAPHIC LONG POST but 100% REAL. If nobody reads it, totally, fine. I just had to put it out for my fellow East Asians brothers out there that share the same fetish. Like I said I am Asian (East Asian AMERICAN to be exact) I could be Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, or Japanese, but trust me. There are MILLIONS, maybe even TENS OF MILLIONS OF US worldwide who share this sexual fetish and seriously get off on this. I remember watching a cooking show on TV and I will never forget this conversation: The white host tasted some pasta made from a Chinese chef (forgot his name, but this is was his cooking show in the 90s) and the white host said they were delicious and told the audience that pasta originally came from China and the west stole it. The Chinese chef replied in a joking way (but actually 100% true) "you also stole our women" and both men laughed. That quote will stuck with me. I was a 14 year old Asian American back then in 2002. In my own family, on my father side, two of my female relatives are married to white men, and another one is currently dating one (100% having sex, and I would LOVE to watch). On my mother side, 1 female relative is married to a white Egyptian man (very great dude btw). I would say about ~70 to 95% of East Asian families in the US, especially Chinese American families have their some of their female relatives dating or married to White men. Chinese American parents have very little discrimination with their Chinese daughters marrying a White man, but a black man lol just no fucking way. There is literally no discrimination at all for Western men to be with a Chinese girl. Chinese women are/often eager and very sexually and romantically available and accessible to the 'white man'. Just visit ANY Chinese massage parlor, there are THOUSANDS alone in California (guaranteed sexual activity, dick rub, blowjob, vaginal sex, etc) . I live in San Francisco so I see white men and Chinese women/Orientals girls all the time on a daily basis. Literally, every single day I see will see more than 2 or 3, even see 5 or more would be normal. But I almost never see White women and Chinese men. This is sexual domination of one races man having sexual influence and power over another races women. I call it "soft power". Majority western white women 99% do NOT have that sexual intimacy towards Oriental/Chinese men, as opposed to the uncountable number of Chinese women throwing themselves freely to Western men and making themselves their whores/wives. Totally unfair to Chinese men since a lot of Chinese men find white women to very beautiful but they are the forbidden fruit. Chinese ladies are screwed by different races of men not just the ex-western colonial masters but also White colonial subjects and slaves (blacks, Indians, etc) would be reward Chinese pussy. I wouldn't call them traitor whores. They chose to seduce the white colonizers due to being sexually colonized for so long and Chinese women "believe" wholeheartedly that White man have bigger endowed penis than their own Chinese men. It's a very humiliating and shameful but the stereotype is believed and supported by almost all Chinese women and most white women which turns them off sexually to Chinese men....its simply not an even 'battle field'. There are some Chinese who don't care about how good in bed you are, even if their Chinese husband's cock is half the size of a white colonizer she likely will avoid western men and solders to avoid being raped. Chinese laws can do nothing....westerners running around China, pillaging, raping. This mostly stopped after China accept ALL the u equal treaties from the western powers. I began by researching some history, the 1st Asian woman that arrived in the US was Chinese and her name Afong Moy from Canton (Guangzhou). She was simply called 'The Chinese Lady', she was exhibited as an exotic, erotic, foreign female object from the Far East (as the first Chinese lady in the US Chinese men were forbid near here because she 'belonged' to her White master. Amoy Moy was ehitbited in a sexual manner to set the tone that Chinese women were promiscuous (true for many) and then the first wave of Asian women were also Chinese and they were all prostitutes (many Chinese civilian women were also smuggled over to the US and many other countries by the Chinese triads in China since Chinese men could not bring over their wives and families, The Chinese Triad was formed and began mass smuggling Chinese prostitutes and other captured or lure Chinese civilian girls, why not? China this time was under Western colonial rule. The white expats and white colonizers were not under Chinese law even though they were in Chinese soil. In the beginning every western colonizer had their own people do as they please so mass rapes were happening across the country. Chinese men could not do anything because of West power superiority. They could only watch in shame as their own Chinese women were literally being "taken" as sexual prizes. This was a great shame and humiliation to China. Chinese morale were at the lowest point in modern history, but Chinese women were having the best times of their lives....dating/having sex/and intimacy with Westerners in their special 'spheres of influence'. In the US: There were first 100s then quickly 1000s of Chinese prostitute began arriving, serving hundreds, even thousands of men of every race every single day. They're favorite clients would be White men as they were top of social hierarchy and had most money, but Chinese prostitutes were extremely cheap and some even eager to experience sex with these new white rulers. 10 cents or few cents in the 1800s and you can easily have Chinese pussies filled with foreign cum and not on Chinese soil for the first time. During western colonization and the easy sexual domination of the China women, there were Chinese whore houses everywhere in every city, anywhere with white male presence , it's no wonder westerners saw the women of China as simply sexual commodities ... The very beautiful ones were put in special brothels. Meaning sexual access to the best China looking whores and captured Chinese civilian women were exclusively belong sexually to the white colonizers. Chinese were not allowed to enter. Harsh reality. In the US 19th to 20th century , Chinese men could only have sex with Chinese prostitutes (Chinese men were prohibited to have relations to the white woman and the 'White man' simply did not allow Chinese men developing intimate or romantic relationships with white women. But it didn't really matter as white women DID NOT (99%) have any sort of "yellow FETISH" for the local men in China so Chinese guys can only fuck their own prostitutes whom served not just Chinese men, but also all men of other races. Western clients, any foreign man, even black negro slaves! Black slaves were the lowest of social hierarchy, and even THEY were getting it on with raw Chinese pussy 200 years ago (as with any non-Chinese man) It was so easy back then (even TODAY and more so) to fuck a Chinese women. The difference today is if you want to fuck Chinese women, it's as easy as simply going to a massage parlor (all mostly Chinese run businesses) and paying at most $200 including tip to have sex. Few Chinese massage parlors whores will deny your penis in her mouth or her hairy tight vagina if the price is right) but still, your foreign cock will be touched and you will be offered a 'happy ending' whether cumming all over her hands, or her face, or even in her vagina. I love going to massage parlors and pretend i'm a white man fucking an exotic Chinese milf. As I researched more, I became more more interested in a sexual way. I'm an East Asian male that have strong sexual lust towards my own races women! This is sooo much more common than you think. I love history especially ones involving sexual domination of one race over another, in my case, it is the Western man's total sexual domination over East Asian women. Vietnam was conquered and dominated by the French, the Vietnamese women would offer themselves to French soldiers after submitting to the White conquerors. In the Vietnam war, there was an estimated 500,000 to 2,000,000 Vietnamese prostitutes. US soldiers didn't even have to rape them (In China, even Chinese women would also try solicit sex from the foreign soldiers, many times FOR FREE. Yup free Chinese pussy for the White man colonizers, but there would still be frequent gang rapes and forced sex against non-Chinese prostitutes (it was open season on the submissive Chinese female civilian population) by British, French, German, American, basically any and every westerner if they deem her pretty or just they want to show some sexual dominance because to them ALL Chinese women are "easy whores" and these sexually dominated women want it, yes, some Western solders really believed Chinese women all wanted to have sex with western men because of well.....so many free Chinese pussy being offered to the white colonizers. It would be have extremely rare for a White man or any non-Chinese foreign man to have NOT had sex with at least 10 or 100 Chinese women in a SINGLE DAY, it was very easy....) 17-20th century China was full of Chinese prostitutes, Chinese prostitution blew up to unimaginable scale after British and other nations started their unequal treaties. Many Chinese whore house and Chinese brothels were build to accommodate the Western colonial overlords. So many Chinese brothels and whore houses were all over China, especially close to spots where western soldiers stationed and Westerners spheres of influence. 10,000 of such places proving sex service to white men became normal. 10,000 still might be too low. In Guangdong province (British sphere of influence) there are already a few thousand brothels. Every street was a whore house. Western soldiers would be solicited to come in. But even with so many eager China women offering their bodies, the White man would still take pleasure in raping, many times gang rapings of civilian Chinese women on the streets as far back as 18 to 19th century and that was a common sight not just in Guangdong province but all over China. Chinese could not resist the military might of the West and most Chinese men simply ignored what was happening and the future social-cultural ramifications it would bring in the future between their Chinese women and Western men even though SEXUAL acts between Chinese girls and white men became so common and happens brazenly frequently even out in public (sometimes out on the street, shops, in the Chinese Imperial Palace, anywhere and everywhere was fair game to the white man....), Especially in Western spheres of influence in China, this was the place to be a White man, they probably all felt like sex gods with so many eager Chinese women to have sexual and romantic intimacy with. When there are foreign invaders screwing your women in broad daylight and there's nothing you can do but watch you either become accustomed to it or grow a sexual fetish, both of which happened to many Chinese/East Asian men. During the 2 centuries of Western colonization and sexual domination of the China woman, white men turned China into their personal whorehouse. When the French and British invaded the Forbidden City, the Imperial Palace in Beijing, they went and searched and rounded up and tied up all the women of the Chinese Imperial Court, many Chinese concubines were raped mercilessly with other Chinese high born and noble ladies of the court. Some women escaped, but where was no where to go, China was literally fractured and Western nations controlled huge areas of China extending even beyond their already large spheres of influence (they have total control in these areas. Also during this time, Chinese women did not wear any undergarmets, it was simply a silk cloth with 2 strings tied, very easy access for the white colonial rapists. The Japanese was in China too and was appalled by all rapes committed by the Western nations, while at the same time many Chinese women would offer themselves to the Westerner soldier. It was weird, why rape if Chinese women and so many Chinese whore house and brothels were build specially to cater westerners. The Japanese found it even more tempting when they discovered Chinese women did not wear "panties". Even Chinese men would offer their Chinese wives to the White soldiers when demanded. There was no choice. I don't know how many Chinese wives were raped, fucked or inseminated by the Western soldiers, but I'm thinking in hundreds of thousands... Aside from the Western colonial domination over China and its women, the Japanese decided they wanted more of China so they faked false flag attack and invade China. Even with all the whore houses and brothels China built to give the white man 'rest and reaction' (fucking Chinese women), it was still not enough. The Japanese being East Asian themselves invaded China and raped around 1,000,000 to 3,000,000 Chinese women. The infamous Rape of Nanjing along saw over 300,000 Chinese women raped. This is just one city. When the westerners saw what the Japanese were doing even they became shocked. Not only did this sexual domination affect Chinese men, but also many East Asian men in the other Oriental countries that the Western nations colonized or went into. Thailand for example, was never colonized by the West, but today they are known to be the Oriental sexual paradise filled with Western sex tourist. Also back then more then 40 or 50% of Thais are Chinese due to the influx of Chinese immigrants through the 18th century or something, so even in Thailand the white man could still be fucking a Chinese lady. White man and Chinese women are one of the MOST popular "interracial" pairing in world, maybe even history. Due to sheer size of Chinese populations and so many Chinese women, so many of whom are DESPERATELY EAGER to marry (or fuck) a western man either for citizenship, money, but I believe those are not completely true. Chinese women in general, in China, have a certain 'stereotype' regarding white men. Chinese women think White men have very large well endowed penises (mainstream porn confirms this), (also, lots of Chinese girls watch porn so they have seen the BWC, the same with BBC. Every Chinese man know this stereotype. Western males in China have been romantically and sexually dominating Chinese women for so long I don't even consider it 'interracial' TBH. It's like white women and black men but multiplied by 100x. The ONLY porn I watch since I became fascinated with this subject is WMAF (White male, Asian female) or WMCF (White Male Chinese Female). If you type in just 'Asian porn' in most any porn video site, it is almost always white man fucking a Asian woman. I have found rare clips of Asian (Chinese) guy banging a white woman, but compared to how many White men are screwing and having romantic consensual intimacy with so many Chinese women from 2 centuries ago until now and not showing any signs of stopping makes it extremely one sided. it's absolutely NOT "fair" but this is the reality....and my secret fetish. Am I a race traitor? It' weird, because even though I am East Asian American I am a STRONG supporter and love my motherland country, while at the same time I love the idea and get soo turned on by see our "exotic, slutty women" get fucked by White men, black men, any foreign man, but mostly White. The 'Big White Cock' (BWC) stereotype is also true Japanese women, I think 100% Japanese women have this stereotype of White and Black men having larger penises than their own men. Japan even produce porn featuring Japanese women fucked by foreign White men, for the Japanese men to watch) You see how deep this sexual fetish goes now? I went to the massage parlor a while back, and saw 2 white guys come out, I'm one hundred percent positive their penises was serviced by some Chinese massage whore. At one Chinese massage parlor I usually frequent I became a regular to one of the beautiful Chinese milf in there. At the beginning she they would massage starting your back first, then legs, you will feel their hands grazing your balls (they know why you are here), and then you turn over. The Chinese masseuse will sometimes go straight to giving you a handjob or putting their mouths over your cock if you turned over and your dick is rock hard, or they give a handjob or blowjob signal. After being this Chinese massage milf's client for the 3rd time, the first thing I do is take her between my thighs and rubs her ass, pull down her bottoms and pull down her panties and lick the her pussy. I LOVE to lick Chinese/Asian pussy, they also really enjoy it. In every single Chinese massage parlor I've visited, when I'm laying first down and she is in front of my head massaging my back I like to grope them, they hardly ever mind. I would squeeze her ass, stick my finger in her vagina, rub my hands all over her pussy then rub my cock with her juice (yea yea I'm so perverted and horny but I love to do that to them). Sometimes my white friends ask me where to get some Asian pussy, I happily introduce them to the massage parlor spots. It makes me feel good that I am helping a Chinese massage whore earn money and experience more "BWC" and "BBC". I even asked many Chinese massage girls if they ever have white customer. "Everyday" they say. I already expected that but hearing them tell me confirms my sexual fantasy and I cum so hard. I think most of the Chinese women working in massage parlors are infertile by their own choice because clients (Chinese and non-Chinese, especially white me know have easy access to what I consider an unlimited supply of Chinese women. Besides Chinese massage parlors, there are more than 1,000,000 Chinese American women that are married to Western men. I think the article I read was somewhere between 40-50% of Chinese American females are married to Westerners. I would have guessed the percentage to be higher....but it seems accurate if you live in any big metropolitan American city with a Chinese population. Even in China, there is a "shortage" of Chinese women compared to Chinese men, addedto the fact that so many Chinese women in China, US, any western country etc, WANT to marry and fuck White men. I admit I have a colonized mindset regarding the sexual exploits and domination of Western white men against East Asian women, despite being East Asian male myself. Tumblr also used to be my SPOT for all WMAF material. It should be its own category. Of course, I do not wish the extinction of my race. I am proud of my East Asian race but secretly LOVE the western sexual domination over East Asian women. From the as early as 17 or 18th century up until even NOW IN 2019, I keep seeing the trend. It has been 'normalized'. I know almost ZERO east asian man that objects their women being used and being sexually or romantically involved with the 'White man' Today, in Japan, Korea, Taiwan and all over Southeast Asia, the 'White man' has access to unlimited Oriental pussy of every flavor. China maybe consider an "adversary" to the US led Western world order, but Chinese are still offering themselves to westerners. Also, in China there are approx. 500k white english teachers, and it is like an open secret but ignored by the Central Government. A LOT of these western english teachers are SEXPATS, white privilege is alive and well all over China, White English teachers are known to have sexual relations with their Chinese students (almost all Chinese students are predominantly female.... and English teachers white males. Some Chinese parents even pay extra for some White english teacher to come to their homes and even sleep over to teach their daughters English. A friend in China share with me stories all the time (He is an English teacher but not white, Asian) about how teaching english in China is like sex heaven.....if you are White...even sometimes black (for the Chinese ladies with BBC fetish, this is also trending....) Foreigners think Chinese women have small tight little vaginas, this is probably an evolutionary trait because Chinese men's penis are "stereotyped" by even our own Chinese women as 'tiny and small', while at the same Chinese women "stereotype" White men as being well-endowed, great in bed, and it's not false to say there are many tens of millions of Chinese women who have developed 'white fetish'......it's the reverse of 'yellow fetish' where White/foreign men look at Chinese/Oriental women as sex objects and have to seduce and have sex with them. The same goes with Chinese women, there are actually some big DATING SITES in CHINA that caters ONLY to WHITE MEN and CHINESE WOMEN. Foreigners, Im talking mostly White men can literally book a trip to China and go on planned dates with Chinese women, you choose the one you like (there's so many Chinese women that sign up for these events but they get booked in like the first hour) and go on a sweet date with her, usually the night ends in some hotel room with a white man getting his 'yellow fever' fix. Even though many Chinese women are sexually easy (ESPECIALLY towards Western men) to obtain, whether in China or anywhere in the world, most also make great wives. There is a reason why millions of 'China women', local Chinese women in China are very eager to date/marry/fuck White expats. 200 years of Western colonization have made Chinese women one of the favorites of the Orientals (Japanese, Koreans, Vietnamese, Filipinas, thai women etc) because Chinese women truly have zero discrimination against White men, actually a lot of non-Chinese men fuck Chinese women but the 'White' man are seen by a so many Chinese women as top of the sexual and social world hierarchy. The biggest country in the world and up and coming superpower can't even stop this sexual dominance of Chinese women by white men because it has become so ingrained. Take Hong Kong for example, a Chinese ethnic city, had been under total control of white men for 150-200 years depending on how you count it. The Chinese women there (Yes Hong Kongers are 100% Chinese) were so accustomed to British rule, if you didn't mingle with the white British would been seen as unusable. The common sight would be something like white man having multiple (All the foreign consulates during this time had harms of Chinese women so the British and Western officially had plenty of "rest and reaction". Same goes with all the Western soldiers in China, they all were having sex (consensually MOST of the time, rapes in broad daylight, etc raping Chinese women in / engaging in sexually activities in China during this painful period of China's colonial history was very common) The stereotype "Chinese girls are easy" did not come from no where.....Even Chinese men will (secretly, became shameful) admit Chinese women are easy and to White men and other non-Chinese men....Chinese women are either whores/Loves white men (true), and are easy to sexually prey on. China in 17-20th century was like legit the 'White colonizers' sexual playground. Chinese men had no choice but to accept the reality, choose to ignore it, or it becomes their secret sexual fantasy. Southeast Asia, besides Thailand was fully and totally colonized and controlled by the Western colonizers. The local Oriental women would be sexually dominated and submit, this was the easy part. In a strange way, Western colonization of the Far East, through military, economic and sexual domination of the local women turn many Asian women, like Chinese, Japanese, Koreans to develop a sexual fetish for their white colonizers. This 'white fetish' is very strong among the Far Eastern women, especially Chinese women who I believe due to sheer size of pollution and centuries of 'romantic and sexual' intimacy with the Western invaders/colonizers have by far the MOST "white fetish" loving Chinese women. I think the white mans biggest advantage today is their sexual conquest and sexual colonization of Far East women. I've said way too much, but there is so much more to say. This is fucking actual history (taboo history) but look around you today, WMAF is so popular, Oriental women and White men date/fuck and Asian men don't mind or ignore it....there are even East Asian men who promote the sexual domination of Oriental women by Western men. Even though White man DO NOT like to see Asian/Chinese men with THEIR white women, but they sure don't mind getting very intimate and sexual with women from the Far East. Because China is literally almost all of 'East Asia' and because I live in San Francisco where there is a a huge Chinese population (Note ~40% Chinese American women are marred to Western men, more than 60-70% maybe higher have date/or had sex with Non-Chinese men, mostly White men. They "love you long time" is an understatement. I just hope other East Asian women will continue the path of their 'white fetish' sexual fantasy. I would never admit to having this fantasy. it's very shameful. Imagine if all Chinese and non-white men (excluding Black men) have total and unlimited access to white blonde hair blue eye's women's body and sexuality. Can you imagine tall blonde hair blue eyes white women being having sex with Chinese men for centuries and as so today millions of blonde hair blue eyes white women have developed a sexual fetish for Chinese men and having a stereotype that they love Chinese men's cock? Most white women, along with Chinese women have something in common, Chinese men are "stereotyped" with having very tiny penis and this would automatically turn off the White Goddess. It would be very shameful to the white man. But also, it's a two way road. White men today are not forcing themselves on or raping Chinese girls and women with impunity in China like the past couple centuries. Those white colonizers help developed a very deep ingrained colonized mentality on Chinese (and other Far East women) through unrestrained sexual dominance. If you are a white man in Europe, say in the 19th century, and Chinese soldiers would take and rape your White women with impunity while you can only watch as one Chinese soldier after another gangbang your blonde hair blue eyed goddess in broad day light! Except the reserve happened and it created a cultural social situation where it is completely normal to see Chinese girls in the arms of White expats. 2019 and the trend is still going. Because this my favorite taboo secret subject, I like to keep up to date. So even today, in the world the most popular "interracial" pairing goes to White men and East Asian women by a LARGE margin. More Chinese women date/fuck/marry White men then all other non-East Asian /Oriental women combined! Size matters! There is also barely any negativity regarding the 'white man taking Chinese men' in China and in all Chinese populated areas in the world. That's pretty amazing. I know most East Asian males will never admit to having this sexual fantasy, but will continue to ignore it because 1.) its reciprocal between White men and East Asian women and 2.) it has become so normalized and complete that it's become part of the mainstream culture. Subjects like these are rarely talked about because of the shamefulness from one side and also, most men of any race would strongly oppose or reject women from their own race to become whores (some Chinese men will call any Chinese women who lays in bed with a westerner or any foreign as "whores and sluts". But in this case of East-West, it's accepted. Chinese politics and US led Western politics might differ, but there is one common ground. Sex. Chinese women and white man having sex, going on dates, being intimate in public is all big cities in China. In the Chinese country side where Chinese women have rarely seen a white man, the sexual curiosity will spark. I remember a trip to China 10+ years back. This was Shanghai, used to be called the 'Whore of the Orient' go figure... Well, I was in China as part of a tour group when Western tourist were in the area, they were like instantly celebrities with Chinese all wanting to take pictures with them. if the Westerner is a man.....hehe...let's just say you'd be spending 0 dollars and you can start making a 'sex count' of how many Chinese girls you fuck. There was an expat forum (gone now) in China where the Western expats share all their 'sexual conquest'and exploits they have with their Chinese female students and even female Chinese teachers. They will tell each other where to find the easy Chinese women, where is the best school to poach young Chinese girls for sex (this was going on for many decades) . Many of those foreign expats also have Chinese mistresses (modern day concubines, except they only serve western males). It's gotten to the point where the Central government in Beijing issued a warning, explicitly targeting Chinese women telling them white men are spies and be weary of dating them. I'm talking about Chinese women in ALL LEVELS of Chinese society. From the young Chinese peasant girl from the country side, "white fetish" loving Chinese whores in the all the cities, even A-list highest paid TOP Chinese celebrities including Zhang Ziyi, Gong Li, Fan Bing Bing and dozens more, have either dated or married to WHITE MEN. You will not see anything of this sort in China. Only Chinese female celebrities have no issues getting intimate with western males. It's kinda crazy..... Even Chinese women in the CCP have to control their desires assuming they developed "white fetish" which I am sure some have. It's a common trait in among women in China and the Far East. All other Far Eastern countries are the same, but China is different because of is its the largest country in the world with an IMMENSE collective thought among so many Chinese women (in all levels of society) in regards to white men when in comes to dating, romance, intimacy and sex. They even have local shows in China where Chinese women basically have to use seduction and other means to be chosen by the man (white man, wasn't surprised, made me watch the entire show.) The point is, whoever the white man chooses, will be his Chinese wife. Filipinas......unlike the sheer size of the China women's population and despite millions of Western men spreading their seeds inside Chinese pussies for centuries continuing to this day with signs of spreading to more and more Chinese women, the Chinese population remains 92% homogeneous. Filipinas got sexually dominated 1st by the Spanish and later on by the US. Because of population size compared to China, you can see many mixed-race filipinas. Filipinas were raped enmassed both by the Spanish and Americans that today a lot of Filipinos have Spanish or western blood thanks to their white expat father inseminating millions of Filipina whore mothers. This is also normal in the Philippines. Whereas Chinese women have "white sexual fetish" for Western men, Filipina have "white worship" for Western men. The social cultural aspect of all this is the White man's massive control and influence over Chinese women and filipina women in the dating and sexual intimacy scene where it is accepted and often promoted (China advertising agencies use White men and Chinese women quite commonly in big public billboards either to sell products or to promote single Western men to meet Chinese ladies. it's like China doesnt really mind Westerner males having very intimate and sexually charged relationship with Chinese women because........200 some odd years of the Western man enjoying the total unrestricted sexuality of the the women in China became part of the "taboo culture". Just like the Qipao.....A "Chinese sexual attire" but actually, these clothing belonged to the minority Manchu people. Chinese designers changed the style a bit so the thighs are showing and more revealing. If you made it this far, wow, you actually read all that? I thought history was boring? For me, history the sexual history between East and West is what turns me on the most. It's like I have even a stronger "yellow fever" than western men. I even have a vast collections of classic Asian porn magazines and maybe a 100 books regarding this East-West sexual dichotomy. I said what MILLIONS of East Asian males won't say, they can choose to ignore it, but most will probably end up on pornhub watching Asian porn (it's called 'Asian' porn but the only Asian is the woman getting fucked. Men from many races, black, white, latino, indian (I don't consider Indians to be Asian) are the ones fulfilling the yellow woman's "white fetish" Some might think I am being racist because I keep targeting 'white man', but its just historic reality with evidence all around. However it's not just white men, even though they are most sought after by East Asian women. When Britain was ruling Hong Kong with like fewer than thousand brits and thousands of their Indian soldiers. Indian soldiers also took part in sexual activity with Chinese women. Today most Indo-Chinese pairing are between a Chinese woman and an Indian man. This is also the case in Singapore, even though its 80% Chinese majority and Indians make up like 5%, almost 90% of Indo-Chinese romance/intimacy/and sex are exclusively between Indian men and Chinese women. I was very surprised that so many Chinese women in relationship with Indian males, especially in Singapore where Chinese people make up the bulk of the population, Indian men are not discriminated from getting it on with Chinese ladies. Despite political differences there are hundreds of Chinese massage parlors in India, but zero Indian massage parlor in China. That is very intriguing. Since many if not most Chinese massage parlors are hugely popular, Chinese triads fund these 'whore houses' disguised as a massage business throughout the world. China women are prostituted by the millions every single day in 'massage parlors'. This is a multi-billion dollar industry that keeps growing. Chinese population can always make more babies = more Chinese women so I am not worried about all the white men, black men, or even indian men screwing or marring Chinese women, but for the smaller population East Asian countries I am indeed worried that they end up like the Philippines, with half your population having the 'white man' gene inside their women and girls. Feel soooooo good to get this all out!
2019.08.19 07:43 freakspace99I sat my pin for 24 hours in 17 different countries - this is the result
I have experienced a great difference in amount of matches in each of the different countries i have visited over the past years, so i set out to investigate where i would get the most matches. I did the survey back in mid-2018. Before the survey, my general impression was that i got the most matches in Asia. I'm a nordic-looking-guy, young, fit but no model. Probably quite average in my own country. Hypothesis My hypothesis to why i would get the most matches in Asia, and basically none in Europe was the following.
A great wealth gap. In countries such as Cambodia, Thailand ect. i am considered wealthy, whereas in my own country, i'm middle-class.
In looks i'm probably average and normal in my own country, where in some parts of Asia my white skin and blue eyes are considered very attractive.
Date-able male-to-female ratio. Some Asian women only want to date white men (This is not a hypothesis, its true). With this statement, the amount of available men in Asia is greatly reduced, thus changing the male-to-female ratio. For each 10 available woman in lets say Thailand, there might only be 1 or 2 available white guys (tourists and expats) (This is obviously based solely on my personal experience)
Methodology I bought Tinder Gold, set the pin in a major capital city for each of the countries for 24 hours. I never swiped, but i counted how many that liked me - so for this survey each like equals 1 hypothetical match. For Asian countries i picked both high and low GDP (eg. Cambodia vs. Japan). And i did the same for Europe (eg. Germany vs. Latvia). The main purpose was to identify if wealth had some to do with it. In my profile i stated where i was from (Nordic country) and i stated my occupation (relatively high income), and i used just normal selfies and nothing professional. Results
Matches / 24 hrs
Conclusion There is an extreme difference in the amount of matches, and there are especially a difference between European and Asian countries. I think wealth has a great impact in the amount of matches i received. For low income countries, both Asia and Europe, i received a great deal more matches compared to the high income countries. Eg. 1 match in Germany and 15 in Lithuania. With that said, i also think there is a great tendency to receive more matches in Asian countries compared to Europe, no matter the wealth gap - and i am convinced its partially because
i'm considered more attractive in Asia and
there is less white men to Asian women (of those Asian women that only want white male) and
i'm probably considered a "niche" in Asian countries, i'm different etc. which i'm obviously not in my own country.
Furthermore, when i have asked women from especially Thailand why they would rather western guys, i'm often met with the reason that western men are more nice, romantic and less harsh which some Asian men can have a tendency to be. Final remarks I hope this post do not come across as being racist slur or anything of that nature - its not my intention. I have personally traveled in both Asia and Europe quite alot, and it was a combination of interest, frustration and boredom that made me investigate the differences between Europe and Asia. And yes, i do actually live and work in Asia for the moment, particularly Thailand. I should note that for some countries i tired to set the pin again after 2 weeks, and the general response was about a 50% reduced amount of matches. With this being said, i don't expect the amount of matches to be consistens if you set the pin for a week or so. The amount of matches is highest the first day, and dropping day by day. I assumes this i from the nature of the Tinder algorithm.
2019.02.01 10:24 salnidsujAnalysis: Good and bad reasons to live in China [VERY LONG ESSAY]
A MID-30'S CHINA VETERAN'S REFLECTIONS ON LIFE IN CHINA THIS TOOK ME 2 HOURS TO WRITE. I left China about 5 months ago after living there off and on for about a decade (6 years in full). I’ve never been happier after leaving. I have thought a lot about the country, and have come to the conclusion that I will never in a million years consider living there again. I think most readers of this sub agree that year 1 and even 2 can seem novel and exciting. You’re just getting your bearings; and if you’re optimistic, you probably felt that there is a lot to learn and that you’ll soon figure the place out and will find whatever it is you’re looking for. In years 3-4, the cracks started to show. I always held on to some kind of hope that it “would get better” or that “if I am fluent in Chinese, it will be better” or “maybe I just need to be more open minded”. But after a long time of trying these things, I just came to the conclusion that it’s a hopelessly fucked place and is actually getting worse over time. At times, I meet people who say that they “love it here”. I really don’t know what they’re thinking. What is there to love? I mean seriously. I have this sense that they are lying to themselves, or they are saying that just to feel better about their choice, trying to convince themselves that China is a really awesome place. When you cut through the bullshit and objectively think about the possible reasons to live in China one-by-one, you’ll realize that there are actually very few good reasons to live there. The world has about 200 countries. I can probably think of 120+ that are better places to live than China, and I think that most expats just go there because they vaguely think it’s a place of wonder and promise. I am lucky in that I’ve travelled all around the world, 50+ countries in all. Every time I left China to visit a new place, I always thought to myself “Wow, this place is so much cleaner / nicer / prettier than China. So, why the fuck do I live in China?” This inconsistency bothered me until I decided to just get the fuck out for good in 2018. In their early 20s, I think everyone should live in China for at least 6-12 months just to see what it’s like. I think it can be highly educational to experience such a place for a limited time, especially while you are young. At least, go as a tourist and see the main attractions. I’m all for that. But, as far as settling down or living there long-term past the age of say, 25, I think people need to think more clearly about the reasons for doing so. With this, I wanted to write this to analyze the most common reasons people give for living in China. Sure, there could be some disagreement and I’m interested to hear more people’s thoughts about it. I might be too cynical in some of this, so please tell me where I’m wrong. Some people might have multiple reasons to go there, but if you take your #1 reason and find that that top reason is BS, then your other reasons are also probably BS. If your best reason is bullshit, the others probably are as well. Zero + Zero + Zero = Zero. I think there are something like 3 million foreigners living in China. I think it’s safe to say that half of them are aimlessly there, and the number could easily be reduced to 2 million if people were a bit more objective in their thinking. So here is the list I came up with: Good Reasons, Bad Reasons, and Borderline Reasons to live in China: BAD REASONS
“The people are great”
OK, how many Chinese people do you actually know? Let’s be honest about this one: As a whole, typical Chinese people are pretty unremarkable. Sure there are many who are fine and well. But a large percentage of the people, especially the Han Chinese men, are complete twats with no interesting aspects to their lives. They smoke, talk loudly, and just all around rude. Chinese people are nothing special and in fact are the least courteous of pretty much anywhere I’ve ever been. Just look how they behave as tourists. This is the culture. You really want to be surrounded by people like that? Of course I’m generalizing. Call me a racist. But, what makes Chinese people any better than the people of any other place? I really don’t find them particularly friendly.
“I love the food.”
I’ve heard this one a lot. Maybe this can be a minor thing, but if you’re basing a life decision on which place has the best food, you’re a dumbass. Every country, except maybe dirt poor places, has great food if you know where to find it. I think a lot of people like the “idea” of Chinese food and pretend to like it more than they actually do. Yes, some dishes and restaurants are great, but it is by no means healthy. You seriously need to worry about chemicals and pollutants in it. I find that much of it is low-grade ingredients, refined carbs, and just swimming in grease. It’s not conducive to a healthy lifestyle, and just going to a typical WalMart in the USA, you can find way better ingredients than nearly any place in China.
“From China, I can travel to other countries easily”
This one is also BS and I heard it many times. You could say the same thing about pretty much any country. You have to fly or take a long train to get pretty much anywhere from China. Go to SE Asia or Europe and you can hop on a train and be in a new place in an hour.
“It’s cheap and I can save money”
Not anymore. I keep detailed track of my expenses. I spend more in China than I did in Korea, USA, and Philippines, and Japan even. Among where I’ve been, the only places China is cheaper than are Australia and Israel, for similar lifestyles/quality. If you wanna live like a peasant, maybe you can save more a lot in China. But if you want to live decently, it’s gonna cost as much as anywhere else. If you REALLY want to save money, go to Vietnam, Thailand, or the country of Georgia or Armenia. Those places are all way cheaper than China and have a lot more to offer in terms of quality and beauty.
Yeah, if you’re fluent in Chinese maybe it has some convenient things. WeChat and smartphones have made things easier. But, you’ll find that many things China are more of a hassle.
Yeah, maybe if you’re living in downtown Shanghai. Most of China is exciting for maybe a year maximum. Beyond that, it’s actually a very dull place. Ugly buildings, grey colors everywhere. Pollution, trash, traffic. Even in some big cities, there is actually very little to do. Most of Chinese people are pretty uninteresting, and you will have a very hard time having a meaningful conversation with any of them, especially if you’re not fluent in Chinese. I mean, how many basic small-talk ESL conversations can you take? It gets old. And, there are many hobbies that are impossible to do in China, since the only things people really do for fun are walking around the mall, playing World of Warcraft, or basketball.
“More economic opportunities”
This was MAYBE kinda true 10 years ago, but by now no way. I know. I tried. There are exceptions, but pretty much everyone fails miserably at starting a business in China. It’s 10X harder than it would be in your own country where you speak the language and can get shit done on your own. You also need some serious friends/connections to even get started. Go someplace like Thailand or Eastern Europe where they welcome foreign investment and you can actually OWN the business yourself and don’t need some bullshit partnership agreement. Many have this logic that “China has 1.4 billion people, so it’s a huge business opportunity.” This is only true if you’re a Fortune 500 company with enormous marketing budgets and can hire teams of MBAs and local Chinese to get things done. Even huge companies struggle to make progress, with all the red tape and absurd policies.
I’m sorry to say it, but if you’re teaching English for more than one year and over 30 years old in China, you need to do some soul searching and find a new line of work. It’s not a career and truly is a dead-end. Go learn a skill, invest in your future, and build a real career. These jobs don’t have a 401K, there is no way you could ever afford a home and car, no insurance, and the salary potential is much less than a generic job as an accountant or factory manager in the US. An exception can be made for people working in legit international schools. But even then, the low salary doesn’t justify it for more than a year or two. Most of the international schools are poorly run, and full of headaches; and many of the teachers are not real teachers. Career-wise, you’d probably be better off working at McDonald’s in your hometown than working at some bullshit language school in China. At least there would be a pathway to management and you can move your way up. I know many people do the teaching gigs while they enjoy the weekends and fund a party laidback lifestyle to drink and have fun. Fine with me, but why not do that in a place that’s 100X more fun than a totalitarian dystopia? For that lifestyle, go teach English in Mexico or Bulgaria or Korea. Don’t do that in the least fun country on earth.
"I like the culture"
This one really gets to me. China for centuries has been a backwards country and has produced a disproportionately small amount of the world’s art, music and creative work. Even today, its culture scene is nowhere near what you find elsewhere. It’s also a culture that until recently practiced infanticide, and in the 1960s tried to destroy itself with the Cultural Revolution. “Face” (面子） is a crucial element in Chinese culture, and all “Face” amounts to is people having a childish ego to the point where they don’t want to admit they are wrong. Get over yourself. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of good sides of the culture too. It’s just that it’s a highly flawed culture like anywhere else; so why make this a reason to move there? As a foreigner, you won’t fit into the culture. Also, I’d argue that “ORIGINAL” Chinese culture can be found in Taiwan, Hong Kong, or Malaysia more-so than Mainland, which is a bastardized version of it due to CCP fuckery over 50 years. Shit, in some ways even Korea and Vietnam are arguably closer to the original Chinese culture than the modern-day Mainland. They maintained Confucian values continuously over centuries, while China nearly threw it out. BORDERLINE REASONS "I Want to learn Mandarin” This one is sort of iffy. I learned Chinese a little before going there. I continued studying while there, and then studied from distance over Skype with a tutor when out of the country. Got my level up to HSK 6. Probably could have made bigger efforts and learned it while not living there. It can be done without living in China, it’s just a little harder. In the time it takes to learn Chinese, you could probably simultaneously learn Spanish, French and Russian. It’s that hard, and you really need to think about whether it’s worth it. Why do you want to learn Chinese? Because the characters look cool? To make progress to the point where you can use it for anything meaningful, it’s going to take hard studying for 2-3 years minimum. It’s not the sort of thing you just do for 6 months and you’re done. Because getting to HSK 2 or 3, or even 4 level just won’t get you anywhere in the real world. Sure you can have small talk with taxi drivers. But put yourself in a professional situation, and you’ll be lost real fast unless you put in some serious time and effort. “I like Chinese women” Many guys go to China to meet women and have flings with Chinese girls. I had my share of one night stands and pointless short-term relationships with Chinese girls in my early-mid 20s. I know how it is. There is a subset of Chinese women (about 10% of the population I’d guess) who really want to experience have sex/date with a foreign guy. If you’re the kind of guy who thinks of himself as a PUA, China can be a dream come true. But this is a shallow reason to pick a place to live. The truth is, if you’re a respectable good guy with good life prospects, women anywhere will want to meet you. Why not improve yourself to the point where you can meet women in any country? Get a good career, get yourself into shape, whatever you gotta do. If you REALLY want to find a place where the women are easy, there many places where the women are at least as beautiful and it will be easier… Thailand, Philippines, Taiwan, Ukraine, etc. I guess if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend in China and don’t want to leave him/her, that could be a reason to stick around to see if marriage is possible. This is why I keep it as a borderline reason. GOOD REASONS Family reasons Maybe your family is Chinese and you go to stay with your relatives or something. Maybe they set you up with a good business connection somehow. Working for multinational Sometimes this happens and usually you get a good package to live in undesirable places. Good salary, international school tuition paid, good benefits, etc. These rotations typically go for 1-3 years and you’re out, with a promotion within sight. Legitimately making more than $100K per year For me personally at this point, my price tag to live in China would be way more than $100K, but in general maybe $100K would be enough to overcome the BS, all things considered. Your home country is even worse. I understand there are places far worse than China. Let’s say you’re from Bangladesh or Congo. Coming from these kinds places, China could be a huge upgrade. There are tens of millions of Chinese people applying to live in the US, Canada, and Western Europe every year. Think about that: why would anyone go in the opposite direction? You are young You’re in your 20’s and do it for 1-2 to experience a radically different place, for the short-term. You understand it’s a terrible place to settle down and build a life, and you will learn a lot about this quarter of humanity and move on. Conclusion: How about this list? Did I forget anything? Am I being too mean? What did I get wrong? I do think that many people stay in China as a way to avoid actually improving themself, since they can hide behind the anonymity of living 10,000 miles from home. They can make $2000 a month teaching ESL and sorta survive in a haze of Qingdao and chuanr smoke, not really thinking hard about why they are there and what they are doing with their life. They lie to themselves, make justifications, and wake up at 40 years old not knowing where it all went wrong. Circumstances in China have shifted for the worse in the past 5 years. Back in 2007, it was kinda different. In 2019 it’s reached a point where I just think people need to think even harder about why they are there. I’ve met too many people, myself included, who wasted time there hoping for things to improve and thinking that they could get ahead there. I don’t regret it, since I had good reasons for being there. I was young and I got paid very well. I don't think most people were so lucky. Would I do it all over again starting in 2019?? Under Xi Jingping, not a chance in hell.
2019.01.01 10:13 SpartanSlayer64Canta Per Me Addio: A Noir Review
Noir… It is the name of an ancient fate. Two maidens who govern death. The peace of the newly born, their black hands protect. It has been 18 years since Koichi Mashimo’s Noir first graced TV screens. And like a fine bottle of Bordeaux, this masterpiece of the appellation Bee Train has matured into a complicated masterpiece of animated storytelling. The saga of the lovely blonde assassin Mireille Bouquet and her amnesiac accomplice Kirika, Noir weaves a tale of intrigue and betrayal in the European underworld. For a globe-trotting series, Noir carries a relatively small cast. The central figures are Mireille and Kirika, strong, memorable female leads who manage to exude dignified screen presence yet say less in 26 episodes than most main characters say in their debut. Mireille is a professional hitman, cold and efficient. Her unattached lifestyle grows complicated when she receives an invitation to “Journey for the past together” from a mysterious Japanese girl. Their first meeting-turned-ambush leads to a reluctant partnership between the veteran assassin and the amnesiac young Kirika who possesses Mireille’s father’s watch, an old Walther pistol, and an eerie calm in combat. The director creatively uses Mireille’s shooting as a reflection of her repressed emotions. A hardened killer would never tell her partner she was scared or sad. To express her emotions, the director instead used her target shooting as a barometer of emotions, wildly missing bullseyes when confronted by ghosts of the past. It would be all too easy to allow the likes of Mireille and Kirika to fall into standard anime molds. The curvaceous assassin, the silent Rei Ayanami expat, tight clothes and girls-love undertones—are nowhere to be found. Kirika and Mireille develop an emotional relationship, but are never hinted at as lovers. There are no fan-service scenes, no suggestive poses or extravagant showers. The only nudity in the show is tastefully censored during an ancient ritual, and two girl-girl kisses are presented solemnly as part of the mafia “kiss-of-death”. Fanservicey gore is also averted. With a body count in the hundreds, Noir could easily have added cheap thrill with gory wounds. Instead, death is presented solemnly, something to regret, not relish in. A variety of characters emerge as targets and antagonists, and several factions of the Soldats and the Corsican Mafia do receive pleasing characterization, though none relieve the focus of our two leads. After an action-packed opening episode, the central plot unfolds with the plodding madness of a John Le Carre spy thriller. Kirika’s past, Mireille’s origins, and the provenance of her antique pocket watch unfold tangentially to the business of contract killing and the investigation into the mysterious Soldats. The first dozen episodes focus on Mireille and Kirika’s contract killings, interspersed with flashbacks in a simulated sepia tone. These flashbacks continues to take on new meaning as the series unfolds. The flashbacks suffer from reused animation, though not enough to detract from the narrative intent. Each episode complicates what begins as a formulaic amnesiac plot. Arms traders and banana republics give way to ancient orders and lost prophecies. Amid risky contracts and narrow escapes, Mireille and Kirika search for the truth behind the mysterious organization Le Soldats, who seem to be hunting the pair. The first half of Noir is largely episodic, with the occasional two-parter. Two of the best standalone episodes are No. 6 “Lost Kitten” and No. 13 “Season of Hell”. The former involves a contract on an elderly KGB agent, while the latter follows Kirika's artistic liaisons with an older Czech soldier. The second half features more consistency between episodes as the fates of the mysterious Soldats and the assassin couple Noir intertwine in a dance of death. If the plot has any glaring weakness, it is in repetition. While presented anew each time, themes of man’s sinful nature, redemption through death, and the conflict between fate and free will are reused too often in non-essential episodes. This issue is more noticeable during a marathon rewatch, where the same core dilemma might appear in three out of five episodes in a row. Spaced across 26 weeks as originally intended, or watched three episodes at a time as in the ADV home video, the repetitive plot points are much less of a problem. Despite the heavy religious overtones, fans expecting supernatural revelation may also be disappointed. Noir’s adversaries have very worldly goals of power and influence, and despite the allusions, neither angels nor demons can be bothered to interfere. Noir’s plot will ultimately prove quite polarizing. The pacing is novel-like, more akin to a Cold War spy caper than anything else in anime. The dreamlike sequences between missions and highly stylized action sequences are emotionally powerful, but often fail to provide satisfactory answers or resolve dangling plot threads. And perhaps that’s Noir’s greatest flaw: it sets up a tantalizing world, yet never fully reveals the depths promised by early plot revelations. The ending scene manages to at once exude finality yet refuse to reveal the fate of Noir, leaving viewers to draw their own meaning from the penultimate confrontation. Noir could be recommended on the strength of its music alone. The legendary Yuki Kajiura composed the soundtrack. Better known today for her work on Mahou Shoujo Madoka Magica, Fate/Zero, and Sword Art Online, Kajura’s work from this era is exemplary of her early period, just three years after her first anime soundtrack. Kajiura’s father passed a love of classical music and opera on to his daughter, and that influence is on full display here. The track canta per me (sing for me…) is written in Italian, and is used to underscore the tragic solitude of the assassin. Killing becomes an almost religious act under Kajiura’s score, and the animation team manages to wring sorrow and regret from their killers to the strains of Kajiura’s violin. The roots of Kajiura’s present sound can be found in many of Noir’s tracks, as well as some anomalous elements. Solitude by the Window’s accordion is evocative of Kajiura’s Something, Everything Is Wrong from Rebellion Story, while Salva Nos sounds like a missing track from Kara no Kyoukai. Notably absent is the nonsense language of later works, notably Madoka and the infamous “Coffee Soda” of SAO. Salva Nos is passable Latin, while Canta Per Me is delightful Italian and Maze blends awkward English with a charming medieval sound. Why Kajiura dropped this in later works for her invented language is unknown. Noir’s ambitions scope takes the story across four continents and a variety of locales to rival the best of a classic Bond film. The tale begins in a [lush Japanese suburb,]() where assassin Mireille Bouquet has deployed for her latest contract. The scenes here include anime staples like the cookie-cutter Japanese high school and a tatami matted apartment, but the bulk of the first episode takes place at dusk in a construction site. From Tokyo the leading pair catch a flight to Paris, where Mireille’s apartment serves as a central base for the deadly duo who adopt the moniker Noir. Across the subsequent 25 episodes, the series sprawls across the Germany and the Alps, a Russian village, Paris and the French countryside,Corsica, Africa, the Middle East, Taiwan, and finally an ancient village nestled in the Pyrenees. Each locale is evoked with hand-painted background art. Sadly, the digital revolution in anime production had been the nail in the coffin for such evocative backgrounds. The technical hyperrealism of a Shinkai film or even the cubist abstraction of Shaft’s backgrounds are artistic in their own right, digital productions lack the tender brushstrokes of real oil and watercolors. Even in the twilight of traditional productions, Noir’s background art is consistently impressive. The animation team but great care into crafting intricate stages for each assassination and gunfight. Gothic churches, Roman ruins, French police stations—each stage for action creates dynamic but believable gunplay. This is further enhanced by the attention but towards the destruction of the environment. Bullets striking steel beams throw a satisfying shower of sparks. Stonework cracks and crumbles with each hit, and such small details as buckshot patterns or a bullet crumpled against body armor are recreated. Speaking of attention to detail, the firearms of Noir are stars in their own right. Each lead carries a trademark weapon that matches their style and lore. These weapons are seen field stripped in detail, both during the ending credits and in several after-action scenes. The weapons carried by Noir’s bad guys are likewise detailed, with a variety of weaponry to fit each locale and situation. Eastern-bloc rifles and pistols arm Middle Eastern radicals and gulag guards, German bodyguards tote Walters and H&Ks, and rural villagers draw rifles dating to the Great War. Noir’s realism carries into its animation. With the exception of one later character’s Haman Karn-esque hairstyle, Noir carries a refined realism. Action scenes, though well-choreographed, are weighted believably by gravity—no John Woo gunplay here. People die when they are killed. After a tense burst of action, Mirelle might gasp for breath, or the adrenaline might leave Kirika’s hands shaking after a fight. Our main characters get wounded, are forced to retreat, and occasionally lose gunfights. Henchmen are uniquely detailed, both between gunfights and amid different factions. Scenes often take place at night or in darkened catacombs, and the animation team uses flashes of light in darkened corridors, flickering candles, and shading bordering on chiaroscuro. Noir ultimately succeeds both on artistic merit and as a character drama. For anime fans who want something to break the light novel adaption monotony, Noir will deliver. Nearly twenty years later, the extravagantly layered plot, stylish gunplay, and beautifully painted European underworld still manage to impress. For a rare example of an anime that slips the bonds of the medium and exceeds not just as an anime, but as a work of art, take a sip of Noir. Noir… It is the name of an ancient fate. Two maidens who govern death. To ward the darkness from the nursing babes, their black robes serve as shields.
Since some of you have been sending me private messages about teaching abroad, I thought I'd write a post about this. My background: I'm a military service "brat" and was largely raised overseas in Ghana, Thailand, and El Salvador. As a child I attended international American schools and later as an adult, I spent nearly half of my 17 year long elementary teaching career working abroad at American schools in Saudi Arabia and Lebanon. Since I was unable to readjust to teaching in the U.S. public schools after returning stateside in '99, I opted out of elementary ed and pursued a degree in Culinary Arts. After graduating with honors, I spent a few years working in the food service industry before returning to public education in 2007, this time as the chef instructor of a high school Culinary Arts program. International Schools: There are basically four types of international schools:
Department of Defense schools for the dependents of military personnel.
Proprietary Schools - Most international schools charge tuition. These schools serve the educational needs of Americans living abroad. Some schools serve the children of U.S. military personnel if there aren't enough dependents to warrant having a DoD school. They also serve the children of U.S. State Department personnel, business people, missionaries, and other U.S. civilians who are living abroad with children. In addition to serving Americans, many of these schools also serve the children of other nationalities including those of the host country.
Corporate schools exist to serve the educational needs of corporate dependents. These schools are often in isolated areas such as the Saudi desert (Aramco Schools)
Missionary Schools - Some schools were established for the children of missionaries. Other serve the local population.
There are literally hundreds of international schools all over the world. While I myself taught in the Middle East, I've had friends who have worked in Bali, Indonesia. They lived in bungalows just off the beach! I've also known teachers who have worked throughout Asia, Central and South America, the Caribbean, Europe, and Africa. NOTE: The Department of Defense schools do not attend international job fairs. To work at one of these schools, you'd have to apply directly to the DoD. I don't know if things have improved but I applied to work for DoD back in 1990. By '91 I was working in Saudi Arabia and 6 months into my employment with Saudi Aramco, I got a DoD letter asking me if I would like to be interviewed for a job. One other thing you should know about these schools is that since you would be a Federal employee, your income would be taxable by the IRS. Basic Requirements: Most international schools require teachers to have the following credentials:
A minimum of two years of prior teaching experience
A bachelor's degree
Current teacher's certification
3 letters of reference
Official transcripts and a copy of your certification to document your eligibility for employment
A current passport
Prior teaching experience is often required because nearly everyone in the teaching profession understands how challenging it can be to be a first year teacher. When you throw in being overseas and add the potential factor of culture shock and homesickness, most overseas schools require teachers to have prior teaching experience. As challenging as it may be for some schools in the states to replace teachers who leave mid-year, you can probably imagine how challenging it is for international schools to replace teachers who leave prior the end of the school year. While teaching certification is often a requirement, this requirement depends in part upon the host country laws regarding private education. Some countries require certification. Others don't. In Lebanon I knew a journalism teacher who was a free lance reporter and photographer. While she didn't have a teaching certificate, she had a lot of real world experience. What it's like to work abroad: There's a common saying among expat teachers that goes like this. Anyone who works abroad may generally have two of these three things:
Housing: Most schools either provide furnished housing or will subsidize their teachers for the cost of an apartment or home. In Saudi Arabia, I worked for the Saudi Aramco Oil Company schools and had assigned corporate housing. In Beirut, Lebanon, I lived in what had once been a student dorm. This was just after the end of the 17 year long Lebanese Civil War. My faculty apartment WAS NOT air-conditioned at the time (though it is now) and Beirut is hot and humid throughout most of the year. I have also known teachers who lived in furnished apartments as well as a few who stayed in hotels. Air Fare: Most schools will provide a round trip plane ticket from wherever you are in the states to the host country and back. Some will only provide a return ticket after you've completed your one or two year contract. Others offer an annual return ticket so that you may have the opportunity to return home (or travel elsewhere) over the summer. Although Aramco provided a shipping allowance that allowed me to bring my personal belongings abroad at no cost to me, most schools won't do this. A lot of expats either pay for personal items to be freighted (which can take 3 months if being shipped) or they live out of their suitcases and buy whatever else they need locally. Salaries: You have to be very careful about salaries. Aramco paid U.S. dollars with direct deposits to my bank in the states. Many other employers will only pay you in the host country currency which is fine if the economy is stable. It's not so good for Americans living in countries with rampant inflation like Venezuela. Benefits: Most employers provide medical benefits but you will have to check your contract to see if these benefits will cover you when you're stateside or visiting another country other than the host country where you're employed. Many schools also offer some sort of pension, a 401K, or some other system for retirement. The number of years you have to work for a given school to be vested will vary from one school to the next. Taxes: After working abroad from a year, you will be exempt from paying the U.S. income tax but will still have to file an annual return. It's a lot easier to do this now with the advent of the internet and online tax filing. This wasn't the case when I worked abroad and all taxes had to be filed through the international mail. The reason why overseas income is tax exempt on your Federal taxes is because it's presumed that you'll be paying the host country income tax. Depending upon where you're working, the income tax rate might be higher than what we pay in the states ... or it could be lower. Some schools will pay the host country income tax. Others won't. Saudi Arabia had NO income tax and in Beirut my school took care of the local taxes. Banking: Regardless of where you live, it's generally useful to have a local bank account if for no other reason than to have the ability to cash personal checks and to get traveler's checks for when you traveled outside the host country. Why Teach Abroad?
Every school I've attended as a student and every school I've worked at as a teacher has had a student body that was on or above grade level. Most of the parents were interested in supporting their child's learning. Unlike U.S. public schools which are required to educate everyone regardless of whether or not they want to learn, overseas schools serve a student population that can be quite different from the ones in the states.
International schools by virtue of being abroad, are exempt from NCLB testing requirements. This doesn't mean that international schools don't administer tests. Many do ... but the test data is used for in-school improvements and/or to provide accountability data for accreditation reviews. Testing doesn't drive teaching as it so often does in the States.
Most countries abroad are much smaller than the U.S. and they aren't as geographically isolated as North America is with oceans on either side. This means that if you have an extended 3 day weekend, you can hop on a train or plane for a short trip across the border to a neighboring country. While living in the Middle East, I once spent Spring Break in Syria. I spent another vacation in Jordan. For Christmas, I once spent a week cruising down the Nile on an old paddle wheel steamer. In Thailand we used to take short trips to Hong Kong. I spent Spring Break in Singapore, Taiwan, and Japan. I've summered everywhere from Asia to Europe.
When you live abroad, you get to know the host country in a way you would never have been able to do as a tourist. If you're socially outgoing, you'll make local friends who will often be more than happy to show off their country from their perspective; immersing you in the host country culture with food, beverages, music, art, and all sorts of sporting and cultural events. In Beirut, one of my favorite activities after work was sitting outside a Lebanese bistro with friends while enjoying coffee or tea, eating freshly baked pita bread with hummus, and watching the sun set over the Mediterranean Sea. Lebanese students from the nearby American University (AUB) often provided a bit of local culture by dancing in a semi-circle while their classmates banged on drums. This was a really nice way to end the day and this sense of cultural immersion is one of the things that I miss about living abroad.
Beirut as seen from the Corniche, the road that parallels the Mediterranean. May non-Americans Teach Abroad in International American Schools? The answer is both yes and no. It really depends upon the individual school since no two are exactly alike. When I taught for the Saudi Aramco schools in Saudi Arabia, they had a policy of only hiring U.S. nationals with valid teaching certificates. In Lebanon one only had to speak English and to have a valid teaching certificate. In addition to the Lebanese faculty, at the time I worked there we had teachers from the United States, the United Kingdom, New Zealand, Canada, and Venezuela. If you are from the United Kingdom, you should be aware that there are international British schools. In addition to Search Associates, the Council of International Schools hosts an annual international teaching job fair in London. How to Get a Job Teaching Abroad: The easiest way to find a job abroad is to attend a job fair for the international schools. At the time I taught abroad which by now ws nearly 20 years ago, the biggest host for international job fairs was the International Schools Service (ISS). They hold two annual job fairs per year in the United States and one job fair abroad. They also now hold two virtual job fairs. I am told that they have been replaced as the premier source of overseas teaching positions by Search Associates. Twenty years ago, Search was a tiny organization. I'm both amazed and impressed that they've managed to surpass the ISS in the size of their job fairs. I can't help but wonder if the ISS shot itself in the proverbial foot since they had an unfortunate tendency to always side with the overseas schools instead of the teachers working abroad. Case in point: I knew a teacher who worked in Venezuela who had to leave after runaway inflation and the lack of basic groceries in the local supermarkets made it possible for him to support his family. The ISS blacklisted him for breaking contract. In addition to Search Associates and the ISS, the University of Northern Iowa has one annual job fair. If you're Canadian, Queens College in Ontario has one annual job fair. In the United Kingdom, the Council of International Schools hosts an annual job fair in London. Search Associates also has a job fair in London. The recruiting season for the next school year runs from November through February. Applicants who want to attend a job fair either in person or on-line must first apply to the organization that's hosting the fair. You may fill out an online application. You will also need to submit official copies of your transcripts, a copy of your teaching certificate, and 3 letters of reference. If you decided to go to a job fair, DO YOUR DUE DILIGENCE. The job fair will send you a list of schools that will be attending the event that you're interested in. Research these schools to see if these are places where you'd like to work. Given our current geopolitical climate, it would behoove you to verify that the country is safe and financially stable so that you don't have to worry about having to be evacuated during a military conflict or having to worry about how you'll survive if there's rampant inflation and the cost or even the availability of groceries far exceeds what you're earning in local currency. You also don't want to worry about terrorist threats or being kidnapped off the streets either for ransom or for political drama. I would recommend being proactive about the list of schools you receive. Email a cover letter and resume to the point of contact with each school that you're interested in. If nothing else, this could help you save some time. The way in-person job fairs are held, each applicant is given a blank appointment card with the dates and times available throughout the conference. The job fair is usually held in hotel ballroom with the schools in alphabetical order going clockwise around the perimeter of the room. Each recruiter will be seated behind a table. On the wall above the table will be the name of the school and a list of the open positions that they're looking to fill. Getting back to why it makes sense to contact schools ahead of time .. what's the point of standing in line for 30 minutes just to be told, "Thank you for your interest but we already have some applicants that we're interested in." I've been to two ISS job fairs and I've seen candidates for Aberdeen, Scotland standing in a long line that would take an hour for the recruiter to completely process while other schools such as those for Lima, Peru and Alexandria, Egypt have had no one standing in line. Pictured below is a UNI job fair. https://preview.redd.it/v90hntpcqn421.jpg?width=620&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d1d8258c1aa65b8f8a4a4ae0e682e52fca7b6706 After meeting with recruiters and setting up appointments to interview, the rest of the conference is spent attending job interviews. If you MISMANAGE the time needed to set up interview appointments, you won't get a 2nd shot. It's absolutely critical that you use this time wisely to find as many recruiters and to set up as many interviews as possible. Even if you're not particularly interested in working at that school, why not give them a shot and hear what they have to say? If nothing else you will have filled an interview slot and since expat administrators tend to move from one job to another just like expat teachers, you never know if the administrator you're interviewing with today might be at another school a few years down the road. A positive rapport with one administrator could lead to a future job. You will never know unless you take a chance. Even though you are only capable of accepting one job, wouldn't it be nice if you had a range of options? During my first ISS conference which was held in New Orleans back in 1991, I had offers of employment for:
Dhahran, Saudi Arabia
I went with Saudi Arabia because they offered the best pay and no host country income tax. Housing was corporate issued but the rent of $130 a month with PAID UTILITIES was ridiculously low. Although Aramco had a year round school system, teachers got one month off per year for repat (repatriation) and if memory serves, we got an annual $7500 in vacation allowance. In contrast, teacher pay in Lima was low and at the time, the country wasn't particularly stable. Bucharest, Romania might have been interesting but the principal was brutally honest. She wanted to hire me because I'm a minority and I didn't want to be a "show and tell" sort of teacher where kids (and possibly parents) would stare at me as the school's ONLY example of cultural diversity. The principal at Alexandria, Egypt seemed depressed. "Why would you want to work here?" she asked. "There's nothing in Alexandria." (Although I appreciated her honesty, I can't help but wonder if she was being a bit too honest.) The administrator for Taipei advised me that as a bachelor, I would probably have to share an apartment with another teacher. He also refused to tell me what my salary would have been and kept saying, "Issues of salary aside, if I offered you a job, would you come?" I kept telling him that salary was not an "issue aside" at least not for me. I wanted to know how much I would be paid. Since the administrator wouldn't tell me and since his Chinese colleague literally turned up her nose to me after learning that my grandfather had been nothing more than an uneducated Chinese peasant, I said no to working in Taipei. In terms of other opportunities, Seoul Foreign School in Seoul, Korea turned me down flat. SFS was founded as a missionary school and after waiving aside my educational credentials, the principal eagerly rubbed his hands together, leaned forward in his chair and said, "Now let's talk about your relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ." Since I was agnostic at the time, my lack of Christian faith ended the interview rather quickly. Helpful Tips for Living Abroad: As a child I have lived in 3 foreign countries and have taught in 2 others. Here are some life lessons I picked up while living abroad.
Register with the local U.S. Consulate: It's always a good idea to register your presence with the local Consulate because if things go bad in a hurry and if the U.S. government orders an evacuation (as they did after Beirut was bombed by the Israeli Air Force), the U.S. Consulate won't be telling you about the evacuation orders and where you should go if they don't know that you're in the country.
While you don't have to carry your passport while out and about in your host country community, it's always a good idea to have picture ID. While living in Syrian occupied Beirut back in '98, I was once stopped by a group of Syrians at a checkpoint. A member of the moukbarrt, Syrian secret police, (which wasn't so secret since these guys swaggered around in leather coats with berets and AK-47's slung over their shoulders), literally stuck his weapon in my face while loudly screaming for my ID. Since I had an assault weapon pointed at me, I moved very slowly to retrieve my wallet. After looking at my driver's license, the security guy barked, "ARE YOU CIA?" I subsequently pulled out my work permit which showed that I was a teacher at the American Community School of Beirut. The security man lowered his weapon, pocketed some of my Lebanese currency, and tossed my wallet back to me before gesturing for me to be on my way. I DID NOT complain about the money he took. Baksheesh (bribes) were quite common at the time. A Lebanese parent of one of my students owned a bakery and he told me that Syrian military officers often entered his bakery to demand complimentary baklava and other pastries. None of these were ever paid for and nobody with any common sense ever complained.
Be careful about using the international mail. The international mail was fine in Saudi Arabia but mail and packages sent home from Beirut never reached their destinations in the States. The local mail service was so bad that the school had a private service set up. All packages and letters being sent to faculty working in Beirut were sent to an address in the U.S. and once a month these items were air-freighted to Beirut.
Your new colleagues in the host country will be an invaluable source of information regarding the efficiency of the local mail system along with where to shop, eat, bank, and how best to get around your local community. BTW check with your expat colleagues to make sure that the local tap water is safe to drink. In Beirut the pipes for tap water often ran parallel to sewage pipes. The word "disgusting" does not even begin to cover how nasty the sewage was since it sometimes backed up across the tiled flooring of the shower in my 2nd floor apartment.
Please respect the host country's laws and traditions. Being an American does not guarantee that the rights you enjoy in the United States will even be respected while living abroad. I can't even begin to tell you how embarrassing it was to live abroad and to hear some loud American yell, "THAT'S NOT HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE US!" In India I once saw a Texan berate a taxi driver for allowing a cow to block the road. The passenger actually got out of the vehicle to remove his cowboy hat and to smack the cow on the rump with a loud, "HAW!" He was subsequently mobbed by angry Hindus. In Beirut, don't expect the butcher to stock pork if you're living in the western part of the city because this part of Beirut is MUSLIM and Muslims don't eat pork. If you're living in west Beirut and if you have to have some pork, go shopping in Christian dominated east Beirut and be discrete when you return home. Why offend your colleagues or neighbors if you don't have to?
Electrical devices: While the U.S. uses direct current, most other countries use alternating current. The configuration of electrical sockets will often be different. If you're planning on bringing U.S. purchase electrical appliances overseas such as your laptop and your smart phone, do yourself a favor and research the type of current that's used in your host country. Bring along a decent quality power strip and an adapter with connections that will fit the local sockets. Plug the adapter into the wall and connect it to your power strip to safely charge your electrical devices. If you don't do this and you somehow manage to plug your devices in, you will short circuit them.
If you've living abroad and you're planning to move back to the states and have lots of stuff that you want to bring with you, hire a moving company instead of a freight company. A freight company will only deliver to your home address but WILL NOT unload the truck. Movers will. You will BTW have to fill out a U.S. Customs Declaration. Be very careful of what you write down. When returning home from Beirut, I shipped some belongings home including a sheepskin showing a panda that I had picked up in China. I noted "sheepskin with panda image" on my declaration form. U.S. Customs subsequently seized my shipment because all they saw was the word, "panda" AND I was billed for the cost of inspecting my shipment which I thought was thoroughly unfair ... but since they wouldn't release my belongings until I paid, up they had me over the proverbial barrel.
Be sure to file an annual tax return with the IRS and your home state even if your income is tax exempt. If you fail to file a tax return, don't be surprised if you get audited when you return home. If you are audited, not only will you be liable for any unpaid back taxes but you'll also be liable for penalties and interest.
If you own your own home and you decide to rent it out while living abroad, arrange to have your home rented by a professional management company. I once knew a school psychologist who bragged about his ability to judge a person's character. He interviewed someone who wanted to rent his home and surprise-surprise, a month after moving abroad, the tenant stopped paying rent. After arranging for a friend to visit his property, the friend was cursed and threatened. By the time he returned with the police, the house had been vacated and gutted. The heater, stove, washing machine, dryer, and refrigerator was missing. Someone had poured cement down all the drains. A sledge hammer had also been used to destroy windows, doors, and walls. The cost of repair and replacement far exceeded the rent and security deposit that the psychologist had collected prior to moving abroad. To be candid, do you really want to have to deal with a phone call from the states at 3 AM about the water heater that has gone out? Can you imagine having to deal with emergency repairs while living abroad? It would be a nightmare. It's far better to employ a management company. Not only will they screen applicants but most will also keep an escrow of funds available for emergency repairs should the need for repairs ever arise.
Here's a handy travel tip. If you're traveling back to the states, check with a local travel agency about the cost of traveling around the world as opposed to a round trip flight to and from your home. It's often cheaper to travel around the world so long as you're going through major hubs in Europe, Asia, and North America. I did this while living in Saudi Arabia and always enjoyed laying over for a few days in different countries each year either while headed home or back to work.
Keep copies of your driver's license, passport, and work permit "just in case." In Saudi Arabia, the government required my employer to hold on to my passport. Since I was in Saudi Arabia during Operation Desert Shield when the U.S. was slowly building up military force along the Kuwait's border, there was the very real possibility that Iraq might jump the proverbial gun (no pun intended) by invading Saudi Arabia. The Aramco Oil Company at the time strongly encouraged all expats to keep and maintain an evacuation carry-on bag for each man, woman, and child.
My bag contained the following items:
1 change of clothing
Two changes of underwear and socks.
Bottled water and granola bars
Copies of all documentation (This won't replace your missing documentation but it will verify that you're a U.S. citizen and it will help U.S. Consulate officials in more quickly replacing your passport. Sadly, you'd have to contact your DMV if you were to lose your driver' s license.)
Copies of important addresses (which nowadays is on my smart phone but we didn't have this back in the 90's and to be candid, if you're on a long flight and your phone loses its charge, having a hard copy backup for important information is always a good idea).
Blank personal checks
Towel (If you have to ask why I included a towel, read "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy")
Conclusion: Spring Break in Petra, Jordan All told, I've spent 17 years abroad. I've summered on hand carved teak house boats in India, have walked the shores of the Dead Sea, and I've had tea on the bonny banks of Loch Lomond in Scotland. I've ridden elephants in Thailand, camels in Saudi Arabia, and donkeys in Jordan. I've had a lifetime of experiences, most good but a few that were scary such as being in Hong Kong during a typhoon, being aboard a sailboat off the coast of El Salvador during a tropical storm, having to duck and cover during Iraqi scud missile attacks in Saudi Arabia and being in Beirut when the Israelis bombed the city. I gave up living abroad after I got tired of living out of a suitcase and not having anyplace to call my own. I now own two homes, have 5 cats, and am surrounded by possessions that I've collected from all over the world. Although I sometimes think about putting all of my stuff into storage and returning abroad, the fact that I have five cats means that I'm stateside for good. I'm not traveling with 5 cats nor would I be willing to give any of them up. Edit 12/16/2018: This post was updated following constructive comments from other reddit members. Since my own expat teaching experience lies nearly 20 years in the past, I updated the how to find a job section to include Search Associations and the UNI. I also included Queens University in Canada for our Canadian readers. This got me to thinking about whether non-Americans may teach in the international American schools, so I addressed this topic as well. I also briefly addressed the idea of respecting the laws and culture of the host country. For those of us who have lived abroad, I'm sure we've all seen unfortunate examples of the "ugly American" who often expects the local laws and culture to conform with life as we know it back in the States. I then added a section about varying types of electrical currents and how to safely recharge U.S. purchased devices. I hope that other expats, both current and former, will contribute to this thread. Please feel free to share your experiences with living abroad. If you can think of something I haven't included in this post, please tell me and I'll edit the post as needed. Shukran! Thank you!
2018.12.07 09:37 Inherently_unluckyMoving to Beijing for work in three days. Any recommendations or advice?
I'm moving to Shunyi district, doing teaching and consulting work for international students. I did a cursory scan of some posts after Googling "moving to china reddit", and my parents are Taiwanese (lol), so I know some of the basics (get a VPN, get comfortable with wechat, watch what you eat, etc.) I just wanted to get some last minute, up to date advice on the move-- what to expect, things to do, the expat community. Thanks in advance! Some background: My employer is helping set me up with an apartment once I get there. I visited the area in September-- seems relatively upscale and not as grungy as the media makes it out to be. I was born in Taiwan (gasp) but moved to whitewash Utah when I was 5, so my conversational Chinese is passable. Unfortunately, I'm about as literate as a 5yo. I also have a couple of specific questions. First, as a stereotypical nerd / gamer, how bad is the Internet? My coworkers say it's shit, but they're also from Korea. Second, any good ways to meet internationals (besides you lovely people)?
2018.06.02 13:38 IndethaiciveParalyzed by indecision - would love some recommendations regarding Southeast Asian cities.
First, if anyone reads this long-ass wall of text, I appreciate you for doing so and for your advice. TLDR: Cant decide which cities in Southeast Asia I should seriously consider (with cost of living and safety being prime factors for me), would love recommendations from those of you living abroad. I'm wanting to relocate to (most likely) Southeast Asia and I've been researching it like crazy. However, the internet is full of contradictory or out of date information regarding cost of living, safety, and other issues and while I feel like I have some sense of some of the cities I've been considering, it's pretty difficult relying on the internet for clear information. I can't seem to narrow down my options, and more and more research isn't narrowing things down for me at all. I'm hoping some of you fine people who've experienced some of these places can help me. My finances aren't crystal clear, but I have a fairly good nest egg stashed up and I could reliably count on $2000/mo USD for life unless there were a catastrophic market crash. Realistically I could go higher by dipping into the bottom line a bit, which I'd be comfortable dipping in for non-recurring expenses like a vehicle, travel, possibly buying a house, etc. (and the eventuality of a possible wife) I'm a 41 y.o. white American male for whatever that matters. I am willing to take language courses so while English speaking would be great, a language challenge isn't going to deter me if everything else is there. In my own research, the Philippines, Thailand, Taiwan, Vietnam all sound appealing but I'm open to China, Malaysia, or Indonesia as well. I'd also consider Mexico. I'm not considering places like Japan or Singapore (or most of Europe, etc) because of higher cost of living. Here's the things I'm looking for: 1a) Cost of Living. I definitely want somewhere that'll stretch out my dollars and I can live cheaply and not worry too much about running out of money. 1b) Safety. This is one area I read a lot of conflicting information. Areas where foreigners are targeted particularly worry me, as I am going to stick out like a sore thumb in that part of the world since I am a 6'7" tall white guy. Natural disasters and political unrest fall into this category too, in addition to general crime and terrorism. I'd LOVE a place I could walk the streets even at night and be pretty safe even as the most obvious foreigner in the world but I can accept some amount risk. 3) Lifestyle. I don't need Western lifestyle but I'd like internet, semi-reliable power, and basic comforts. I'd to live within striking distance of a decent population. I don't have to live in a city, but it'd be nice to be near enough to a city to have access to a decent hospital and other amenities if they're needed. If housing is cheap enough I wouldn't mind being right in a city though where I wouldn't need a vehicle, had access to street food, convenient public transportation/cabs, etc. I don't have a strong preference whether I'm by the beach, I can take it or leave it; other things are more important. 4) Visa issues. I'm not keen on, for example, a Thai visitor visa where you have to do constant border runs and worry about not being let back in because they decided to start cracking down. I'd rather do an educational visa and take Thai language, for example. So ideally somewhere without insane visa difficulties. 5) Dating. I'm not much for crazy nightlife, but I'd like to date and ideally find something long-term. I am not the "player" type - I am on the reserved side and more of a homebody than a partier so internet dating or just meeting people out in the world naturally is more my speed than clubs or night life. Not a big drinker, not a drug user, not interested in prostitution. So I think a place with a decent population for dating would be nice, and preferably not somewhere where it's frowned upon to date foreigners. 6) Income potential. I actually have no idea how important this may or may not end up being, but obviously on certain visas you can't work and in certain places you have more options available to you for work (like teaching english). In a place where English teachers are in demand it's not unlikely I'd do that for a while after picking up the basics of the language but if the cost of living is low enough, that option doesn't have to be there. But being able to legally work would be nice. 7) Pollution. It'd be nice not to go somewhere that the air will take 10 years off my life, but I know for some places I just have to accept that. The places I've been most thinking about are the Philippines and Thailand. Cost of living being #1 on my list, Chiang Mai in Thailand sounds pretty good? Is it becoming overrun with expats though, I'm not interested in a massive expat population that just annoys locals, though a small to moderate one for friendship and support sounds good. Is Udon Thani worth considering or is that going to be a little too off the beaten path? Bangkok is probably more than I'd like to handle and I believe considerably more expensive than the other options? If I went to Thailand I'd want to enroll in language classes straight away on the 1 year ED Visa, so I'm not sure if that makes options other than Bangkok or Chiang Mai less doable. As for the Philippines, the vibe on the internet seems to be to stay away from Manila, and the threat advisories and whatnot scare me away from anything in Mindanao. Which is too bad, because the Davao City area sounds pretty nice to me and preferable to Manila or Cebu. Davao incidentally is a place where the chatter on the internet is all over the place regarding safety. I've heard mixed things about Cebu as well, and seen recommendations for Cagayan de Oro, Iloilo, Dumaguete, Bacolomore...so I'd really love any insights you guys in the Philippines might have as places worth checking out on my budget. The fact that English is spoken there and the cost of living in a lot of places being on the low side makes this a really appealing option but I can't get a handle on where specifically might be good places to check out. A couple downsides I am gathering about the Philippines are safety issues, scams, and a total lack of demand for English teachers so making money there would be more difficult. Outside of those 2 places, I've heard good things about Vietnam (Saigon seems like the winner there) and Taiwan but I worry about the cost of living in those places compared to other options? And I'd love anyone's thoughts on Malaysia, Indonesia, Mexico, and China. Any cities you'd consider in my position, I'd love to hear about. And beyond what cities to consider...I kind of wonder exactly how to go about making it happen. It's likely I'm just too cautious and need to "just do it". If I had to make a plan today I feel like I'd pick a few places in the Philippines and visit them for a week or so each, and if nothing felt right just take the plunge on an education visa and commit to Chiang Mai (if I could arrange that all from the Philippines). But there's gotta be a better way to approach this than that, right? Anyway I'm sure most of you didn't read this whole thing and for those that did and have any advice or thoughts on any of these locations, I appreciate it. This whole process just feels so massive and it's hard to break it down and know how to tackle it. The first step is always the biggest and I'm finding that first step a doozy.
2018.02.27 20:37 wklbishopAnalysis and Application of the White guy in Asia Dating strategy
Recently I found out about the app tantan, basically Chinese tinder. After going through the profiles, I quickly realized of the first 100 profiles, I met 3 and slept with 2 of the 3 (2 of them non-Asians). I quickly realized that actually the AMXF casual dating scene is quite small, at least it’s small in Chicago and it probably is the same girls being passed around by the same aesthetical guys that fit a more Asian beauty standard. It made me realize well, wait isn’t this what white guys go through in Asia. White Male Dating in Asia It’s summed up as going on English language dating apps, going to a western/expat bar, going to western clubs. What kinds of girls go to these places? White worshippers, Lus, or whatever you want to call it. And boom, white guys around lots of asian girls who specifically are going after white guys. Contradiction with my experiences I originally didn’t understand white guys who say that Asian girls are easy because I have relatives in HK and China and they would never date white guys. I also have gone and dated girls there and most of them don’t have a history of dating white guys even though a decent amount study abroad, at best they have a few friends who are dating a white guy. This was always a bit of a conundrum to me. It was a conundrum until I started going to expat circles and clubs. I saw these girls who are not interested at all in Asian guys, who treat me rudely and treat white men as gods. When we as western Asians go to Asia, where do we also go? Unless we have a connection to the area, we mostly go to touristy areas and live the same lifestyle as we do in the west. But the issue is that the local Asians who also want to live a more “western” lifestyle also tend to idealize white men. Thus all the complaining about white worship from western asians. Annoyed, I just left those areas and when I’m in Asia, I try my best to integrate with locals so I can find places that don’t care at all about white people and in many instances, they hated them. Because I have ties to local HKers, I know many of them also dislike white people or are for the most part indifferent to them. I'd even go further and say most asians in developed nations don't care too much about white people. Think about it this way, most fobs in American colleges keep to themselves and aren’t that interested in integrating. They date amongst each other and fuck each other. But there are some fobs who are very interested and do go out of their way to meet and date white men, but they were always in a minority. So what’s going on in Asia? Well, if that same minority is very interested in white men, maybe 10%, then 10% of a city of 8 million is quite large when there’s only 0.01% white men. Application of said dating strategy So if most asian girls in developed nations in Korea, Taiwan, HK or Japan aren't interested in white men yet white guys there do great then well why not do the samething. That is, the non Asian girls on tantan and going to bubble tea places, going to Asian attractions, going to ktown, going to Chinatowns, going to hmarts are significantly likelier to be interested in dating a Asian man than other equivalents. Start approaching them in bubble tea shops and hmarts, clearly they have a interest in Asian culture and open or maybe looking for a Asian guy to date. Do pick up/cold approaches in ktown on non asians as opposed to doing it in a park. The difference I’d say is that the white guys in Asia are far more aggressive about trying to pick up Asians in their home away from home whereas it’s not the same vice versa. It sounds shameless as fuck, but honestly this is what white guys in Asia do. Judgement aside, if you want to do the same, it exists now due to the rising soft power of our ancestral homelands. To go even further, a lot local thais, HKers, Japanese, and Asians in general dislike white people or are indifferent, isn't that mainstream white america? According to Coffee meets bagels, half of White American girls only want white men and aren't interested in dating Asian men. The reality is that many Asian women in Asia aren't interested in dating white either. You can even argue we're fighting a uphill battle with our current dating strategies. See this thread on lots of AMXF: AsianMasculinity/comments/6ozo24/report_from_san_diego_comiccon/ Issues with said strategy
Supply and demand. America is 6% Asian whereas white men are what .1% of Asia.
This is extremely dependent on external factors and hoping media/culture power shifts in our favor
You might not fit the aesthetic wanted despite being Asian (ex. A woman might prefer a pretty Asian face over a pretty white face but a pretty white face over a masculine Asian face)
Application of analysis in Asia Let’s get some perspective, let’s say we’re a white guy that grew up in Korea, spoke fluent Korean and watched anime, watched kdramas, and etc. Now we go to America and all we do is go to Asian expat circles, go to a hmart, and we hit on a white girl with yellow fever, chances are she’ll say no. That’s the same as going to a British pub in Rappongi in Japan and hitting on an Asian girl with white fever. If we’re going to Asia and want to get away from white worship and have a dating life devoid of it, it’s going to require us to learn the customs, including what they consider beautiful, and languages. A golden rule is, the worse their English was, the more indifferent they were to white people. If you can’t speak the local language, you are stuck with the international Asian crowd which isn’t that bad as they consist of study abroad and international schooled girls whom aren’t all white preferring and a greater proportion prefer Asian men than their Asian American counterparts but you’ll be competing against rich international Asian guys for the hottest girls. Though if all you want is cute girls, it’s quite easy as the segment of study abroad and international schooled girls who are moderately attractive, prefer a western Asian, are ironically in short supply of Asian guys as many of their peers preferred to date down with a hot local when they couldn’t get the hot equivalent.
2017.10.31 02:45 nornalhorstBlack American curious about moving to Japan
So I'm in my mid-twenties and a Black man living in America as a Software Engineer, and looking at my previous post asking what kind of experience I should expect in China many people were against moving to China with a lot of concern about the racism over there. So while suitable for a vacation may not be the best place to move to and work in. On the other hand some people recommended Japan, Thailand, Brazil, Hong Kong, or Taiwan so I was wondering how is Japan like? If I decide I want to go to Japan I'd need to know Japanese so I'd have to pay for some Japanese classes for a year to get a basic understanding of the language before I even try to move there. So I wanted to know if anybody here ever go to Japan or know anyone who has and what kind of experience you had there? How do you think the Japanese people treat Black people? Related to that I would like to know how work life and dating life is like over there?
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One big question I was concerned about was how racist is Japan? Like I'd expect some racism since I am a foreigner and a visible minority but hopefully minor. So I was wondering if anybody here has any insight on how Japanese people view foreigners? And would my experience be different as a Black foreigner?
I've seen some blogs by Black expats as well who say the Japanese people were actually less racist overall than Americans. Though from what I heard depending on where you are you may get some anti foreigner bias.
Anyway living in the US I've experienced racism first hand on a few occasions from major stuff like getting racially profiled and harassed by cops or getting into a fight with a racist. To minor stuff like being followed in a store or asking out a girl and getting a "eww, I don't date black guys" response. Though in America due to our fight against racism, thankfully racist incidents aren't like an everyday experience for me. Though I do have my doubts about America's future with the rise of Trumpism and the emboldened racists.
I was also concerned about working abroad I can't move to another country if I can't get a job there, since no job no visa. Right now I'm working as a Software Developer (mainly working with SQL, Java, C++, and HTML/CSS) so I would like to be able to get a job in my field and be able to make decent pay relative to the cost of living. But I was also wondering would it be wise to want to be a software engineer in Japan? Or should I be trying to get a different kind of job? So I was wondering if anyone has any insights on the work situation there? I still have questions like would I be able to get work in Japan like is there alot of job opportunity available for foreigners? Especially for job in my field so I can continue to gain experience while living the expat life. Also being Black would that hinder employment opportunities? Stuff like that. I ask because as a young guy starting his career these things are important. Now if I were an older guy thinking about finding a place to retire to I wouldn't care much about the job market since I won't be working anyway.
I was also concerned about cost of living vs pay in Japan as well. I'm not dead set on Japan or anything so I was looking at other countries as well and these are the kind of numbers I was seeing. Average pay for Software Engineer in Brazil is R$82,463 = $25480.65 USD. Average pay for Software Engineer in Taiwan is 800,000TWD = $26514.96 USD. Average pay for Software Engineer in China is 200,000CNY = $30,125.93 USD. Average pay for Software Engineer in Hong Kong is HK$293333 = $37611.86 USD. Average pay for Software Engineer in Japan is 5,000,000JPY = $44000 USD.
So did some simple calcs 5 million yen a year in Japan is about $44000 usd but living in Tokyo is expensive so your standard of living would go down $44k in Tokyo is like $35k in Las Vegas, NV or $50k in LA, which isn't good but everything especially rent is more expensive. Living in Beijing, China and making 200000 CNY is roughly equivalent to a standard of living in let's say Las Vegas and making $40k or about $60k in LA so about average. Though I heard some bigger companies offer more competitive salaries at 300,000CNY so that would be like making $60k in Vegas or $87k LA. Living in Hong Kong and making 293333HK$ is roughly equivalent to a standard of living in let's say Las Vegas and making $24490.84 USD or about $35247.79 in LA so not so hot. Living in Taiwan and making 800000NT$ is roughly equivalent to a standard of living in let's say Las Vegas and making $38658.33 USD or about $55637.97 in LA. Someone making R$88,000 in Sao Paulo would have a similar standard of living as making about $47K USD in Los Angelas, CA or about $33K in Las Vegas, NV.
Finally I'm really interested in serious dating like one day get married kind of dating. I find Asian women really attractive but I'm also attracted to all types of women Black, Asian, White, Latina, etc. So I was curious how is the dating scene like in Japan, especially for foreigners? Also is the dating scene different if you're a Black guy vs being a White guy? Though to be honest I don't expect too much on the dating side since I'm already just not all that good at getting dates in my home country the US.
TL;DR: How racist is Japan? What is work life like in Japan, can I get a job as a software dev? How is the dating scene for foreigners is it different if you're a Black American foreigner?
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